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writes:dear agony aunt,i am 18, and i have been in a relationship with a 21 year old guy for the past year and a half. he's a really nice guy, but we have issues and small fights on a regular basis. not over anything really serious, just trivial things. since he's older than me, ive had a little trouble adapting. I kind of miss jut being my age and playing the field, but i feel like these are horrible selfish reasons to be single again. as much as we love each other, i find myself wondering where i'll be in 10 years. married to him? having kids? Im still young, and my family agrees that i shouldnt invest my "love" chips so early and so quickly. Also, i feel that a lot of the romance is gone - we tell each other "i love you" etc but sometimes it just feels like im faking it. Im almost scared to break up with him because he would either talk me out of it, or he would become depressed (he was manic depressive for almost 2 years before we dated) What should i do?
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You cant live your life to please other people, To be truely happy you have to love what your life is about and you dont sound as if you do, You are worried if you finish this he will talk you around or get depressed..What about you feeling depressed if you really dont love your b/f anymore and feel you are only staying with him to keep him happy then this is not the right path for you or him..Yes he may get upset but you are not running around cheating on him are you. you are thinking seriously about your futour and your not happy so do what feels right for you sweetheart I no its hard nothing like this is ever easy, I hope you sort this out love and feel better very soon TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): Have you talked to him about all of this?
I mean all couples go through rough patches, life would be a bore if we didn't. Are you willing to sacrifice all the good things in your relationship because of the bad?
Talk to your partner about it, maybe organise a sexy trip away to re-ignite those flames and if this doesn't solve the problems, then for better or worse it may be time to move on.
Whatever happens, don't let things end badly. There is nothing worse than ending on bad terms.
Flynn 24
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