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writes:I'm battered beaten and destroyed - not physically but emotionally. How does one break up with someone they call their best friend of 16 years?We have a child together.How does one move on with ones life?
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (2 October 2012):
 Very slowly. I did not have a child with my ex, but we were together for 7 years. He was my best friend, and when we separated I was devastated.
I think the best thing you can do is allow yourself to grieve. Cry when you need to and be easy on yourself. Do things for yourself to help you through the process. Order your favorite meal to take home with you, do things with friends, visit people you haven't seen for awhile.
The other thing I would suggest is to get on a regular exercise or workout schedule. Just taking a 15 minute walk everyday can get you out of the house and get your mind off of what you are going through.
Doing things you wouldn't normally do helps too, but I think it takes some time to build up your courage to this. I think it helped me to get out and be with "normal" people who would not try to take advantage of me emotionally. There are people out there who really care...even if it is just your next door neighbor. When I saw that...and saw how normal people cared about one another, I started realizing that the separation wasn't all bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2012): There is no answer. It's like a bereavement. You never get over what has happened but you learn to take it with you. It's called 'As long as it takes.' No answer to that one. You take small baby steps getting through each day, each week.and so on. Dont look too far ahead just concentrate on getting through each day. Believe in hope and trust in yourself that things will get better. It's the only way. Do small simple things you enjoy doing and pull your friends and family in close. It does get better but not straight away. Read up on break ups and how to cope. It helped me a lot.
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