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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone I just ended a relationship with a guy who was going through a really dark time - he was on drugs, getting involved with lots of shady people, and he became verbally aggressive with me. That was the final nail in the coffin, making me say goodbye. But now, I keep hearing through a mutual friend that he's not doing so well. I got in touch with his aunt and she said she knows he is battling. I asked her if she would consider getting back into a halfway house or treatment center, or something, but she seemed like she was not keen on the idea.So now I feel sad that she isn't doing That, yet, i am out of the sitaution. On the one hand, i know that i have to let it go and just say a prayer for him but on the other, i can't help but fear that he's going to die from his drugs. I am hoping for some objective views on the situation and what i should do. Thank you in advance.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (12 November 2014):
 There is nothing wrong in caring about a person who used to mean the world to you. And there is nothing wrong with wanting them to be safe and healthy.
However, when it comes to addiction, YOU can NOT fix this for him. IT has to come from him. HE has to find that point in life that tell him, I NEED serious help.
YOU have to ask yourself WHAT can is realistically do for him? That isn't ENABLING, but helping him, help himself?
Maybe you can call and talk to someone?
http://www.adfam.org.uk/
http://famanon.org.uk/
Because I don't feel like you can really walk away. (and again there is nothing wrong with that) It's HARD to come to terms with a loved ones addiction.
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