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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey. i am an 18 year old girl and i really like my guy flatmate. We got along fine and had a lot of fun together. However, yesterday, we were all messing around and my other flatmate got water on my bed to annoy me and the guy that i like trashed also trashed my room, as a joke. Then, we were all cleaning my room, and I realised that there was water on my mattress so i asked him to flip it for me. He agreed, but under the mattress he found a note that i had written about him ages ago and i ven forgot it as there. The note basically said stuff like his name and my name together with hearts and stars, and also fum compatibility tests off the internet (tally charts). also, it said 'no sleep' which was because when i was writing this i could not sleep. Also, he hates fat people so it i had written 'must not get fat or he won't like me and won't speak to me'. Basically he found this note and said that we needed to have a little talk so he came into my room and talked. He said that he was shocked and worried and thought that it was a psychological problem and said that i should see a psychiatrist. I was really touched and was crying. Then later, i talked to him and we kind of sorted it out and i lied and said that the note meant nothing and i didn't like him anymore coz that was the only option i had then. Then he asked some questons. Then, i asked him to clar things up with my other flatmate, whom he told. He said hy i couldn't do it and i said that i didn't have any confidence left and i couldn't deal with another one of these conversations again. Then he said you don't have anything to worry about...you are fairly intelligent, you are fine looking, not my type, but then i always say things i dont mean. I don't know wat this means. from then, things have been fairly normal, but today he was going out for dinner and there were 4 of us in the corridor (me, him, my other flatmate and my other female flatmate) he asked them both is they wanted to come, but did not ask me. This is usually quite normal coz i usually am not in their group as them three usually go out, but i don't know if it was right? Wat do u guys feel about this situation.
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reader, anonyous +, writes (24 November 2007):
hey. i understand what you say about forgetting him but i still really like him. I think that we are kind of back to normal, but obviously it will take time to get completely normal. However, it is harder because i have another flatmate, who is female, from cyprus, and she gets along with hime better than me. I think that i can see them flirting. Hwoever, she displays this 'flirtive' behaviour around my other male flatmate as well, so i think that it is not anything specifically personal towards the guy that i like, and, also, she has a boyfriend in cyprus. I just don't understand why the guy that i like flirts with her more (he touches her a lot more than me). I don't know what i can d mae me stad out a bit more and make him like me more. Also, i don't know ho to do it now, especially as he read the note about him...I'm not ure f it is better that he read the note, although, i lied and said that it meant nothing anymore. Could he possibly look at me slightly differently now????
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): just honestly act normal and don't give a damn about them. don't think too much about it. the flatmate that you liked is a total asshole who is conceded. he is not worth your time. do not care; don't even bother hanging out with them, they are not worth it.
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