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writes: Im not sure what to do beacuse my friend dumped her boyfriend a few weeks ago because she realised she didn't fancy him, the relationship only lasted 4 weeks though. Now I have been getting to know her ex over msn and talking when we see each other and I have realised that I fancy him. My friend said the other day to a group of us I dont know what I'd do if I found out one of you fancied him, so I know theres no way I can tell her but I told one of my other friends about how I feel last night and shes cool with it but says its to awkward to make anything happen, and the thing is I dont know if the guy feels the same way towards me because hes an all round nice guy so he might be just being friendly. I really dont know what to do and I know he fancies someone because he told another one of my friends the other day that he does but he said that he doesnt have a chance with her, I know that if I find out who it is Im going to be really jealous what shall I do?
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reader, Stuck +, writes (21 May 2006):
Hi, in my opinion you should talk to him about your feelings just to find out if he feels the same way before you mention anything to your friend to save any friendships being broken that neednt be. Once you both know your true feelings for each other you can decide what to do about your friend although if she was a true mate she would be happy for you. To be honest she dumped him because she wasnt attracted to him so its not like your going to break her heart. If your friend reacts badly its her problem that she will have to deal with because she has the choice to be happy for her friend or lose you. Good luck and i hope everything works out for you
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (20 May 2006):
 It really depends on how much you value your friendship with your girl-friend really! Personally I think there are lots of nice boys out there, but girl friendship that is great and should be treasured. She maybe very unhappy with you if she finds out you have designs on her ex. Of course she has no right to tell you not to date him (even if you both wanted that) because he is not her boyfriend anymore BUT I personally wouldn't want to date my friends ex as it is all rather complicated! Only you can decide what to do next. Your options include making a move on the boy in the knowledge that your friend will be upset, telling your friend straight to her face that you fancy him, or keeping your feelings to yourself for the sake of your friend and finding another boy. Hope you make the right decision!
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reader, matron +, writes (20 May 2006):
 Hi, are you sure that someone isn't you! if you fancy him tell him how you feel, if you cant say it to his face use msn, dont worry about his ex she's supposed to be your freind so she should understand and support you afterall she dumped him because she didn't fancy him. Once you find out how he feels about you all you have to do is tel your freind, just say i'm glad you dont fancy him because since you broke up i realised that i do and we are going to start seeing each other. If your freind reacts badly towards you it really is her problem, she'll get over it when she realises that she's the only person upset by it. Whatever you want to do in life do it, dont grow old with regrets cos you cant rewind and start again, you go girl and good luck
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