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writes:So.. I slept with my ex bf over the weekend after 2 months being broken up. He was the one that broke no contact, he called me late sat night saying he wanted to talk and bla bla you know the rest. I found out the next day through mutual friends that he is seeing someone and has been for the past few weeks. Does he miss me or just play me for the night? What should I do now confront him or just go no contact again? He knows that I am going to find out we have the same friends! I feel like a fool! But yet I was excited to see him because I missed him and still love him I thought he wanted me back.p.s. I haven't heard from him since then, but its only been a couple days since this all happened
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 August 2013):
 Booty call from his end of it. YOU thought that IF you went then MAYBE you two could rekindle your relationship, he... thought:" UH let me call my ex and see if I can get laid!"
Stop talking to him. And do not go see him either. CUT the contact.
The fact that he hasn't bothered to call you after... says a lot doesn't it?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 August 2013):
 Let me re-state your submittal as I read it: To wit:
"My B/F and I broke up 2 months ago. Last Saturday, he got horny and contacted me, and indicated that he wanted me to assuage his horniness by making myself available for sex. I agreed... and so we consummated what it was that he wanted.... Is he "playing me" for his "bit on the side" (since he HAS a new "Girlfriend")?????
Answer: Yes... you got played. Try to avoid doing it again, in the future... especially with this guy....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2013): "Does he miss me or just play me for the night?"
He played you for the night, but I'm sure he wouldn't mind indefinitely stringing you along for casual sex strictly for his pleasure and strictly at his convenience.
"What should I do now confront him or just go no contact again?"
Confront him about what? Nothing you say indicates he lied about having a girlfriend and/or forced himself on you. He's your ex, he has no obligation or commitment to you so he is free to sleep with whomever he chooses.
"I was excited to see him because I missed him and still love him I thought he wanted me back."
Unfortunately it would appear he had a fight with his new girlfriend and/or just wanted to get laid and assumed (correctly) that he could sweet-talk you into bed. If you thought he wanted you back, you should have let him work for it instead of giving it up so easily.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (20 August 2013):
Why would you let yourself go over to his place? It was a late night call....it was a booty call.
I think you have learned from this experience. Go back to no contact. You miss him and love him. It has been 2 months. You need time to grieve the end of a relationship. It takes time. If you keep going back you will never move forward. You are only hurting yourself.
I'm sure he didn't tell the new gal he is seeing anything about you. It was a one night thing,
Good Luck
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