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writes:i had a relastionship with a girl that i really liked from the internet and i met her and found myself loving her soo much but i got attracted to another girl which is a colleague in my college and a close friend too..suddenly i found myself in a relationship with both girls although one relationship started before the other one with a 3 or 4 dayz..i told the colleague girl about the interner girl but not vice versa.. and i had to dump one of the two girls to make sense of the relationi dumped the internet girls 3 years ago and stayed with my loving g.f ( the colleague) till now since thenbut i still think about the internet girl and still wanna call or contact here anyhow...i dont wanna cheat on my g.f and i will not...but what should i do about my thoughts and feelings about the interner girl and is it normal to think like that or not?? plzzzz want answers. thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionplzz help i am diying for her i wanna see her sooo much i cant live like this
i tried to call her today but her brother answered and i couldnt say anything she dont answer strange numbers
omg um really sad and this situation is killing me specially that i have problems with me recent g.f
help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx again for the answer
i think i could try doing that
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): The internet girl seems perfect when you think about her, because she's far away and you didn't know her so well.
The flaws are more visible in things close up than far away.
It's natural to fantasize about other people when you've been with your girlfriend for a long time. But believe me, if you went back to the internet girl-- you'd be thinking about your "colleague" girl again within 3 years. Or some other woman entirely.
The best thing to do is to start doing new things with your girlfriend, break out of the rut. Flirt with her and try to see her as a new person. Perhaps even the both of you could try temporary new looks. Her familiar personality will sparkle new facets in a new setting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx man it really helped me
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Thats quite alright. I'm so sorry about your current situation. You just have to bite it by the bullet and just get on with sorting it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appreciate ur answeres thnk u very very much
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Maybe you still have feelings for the other one.
Your not used to being without more than one person. You can't make your mind up which one. But you need to choose. I think you should try and move on with the 2nd one first and if that goes badly go back to the first.
Your being a bit of a player though, and I do think you should decide now which one you want to go with. Besides theres nothing wrong with talking to someone as a friend.
Think about why you broke up with that one and not the other one, and qualities you want to spend with.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Too long has passed and you still think of the other girl in a romantic way (or this is how it seems to be the case). There's one reason why you have been 3 years with your current girlfriend and you should see to that. If you are having "what if?" thoughts about the other girl, then why you stayed with this girl?
Now, you may also feel that you didn't get to know the internet girl that much and you're wishhing to connect with her as a friend, like many people do with their exs. If that's your reason, then you should try to contact her and build a friendship again, but tell your girlfriend this and do not keep it secret. Hopefully she'll be mature enough to understand your wishes and accept this from you.
Please try to think about your current girlfriend. Like I said, you stayed with her for 3 years so she must be an amazing person with you. Think of all the qualities that makes her a person and appreciate them and probably the feelings you have for the other girl will disapear.
Good luck
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