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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi guys, I booked a six month trip with a mate last year, To be honest I was pretty unsure of going, as I like my luxuries and not sure I am going to cope backpacking and staying in hostels round Europe, plus my mate is not a really close friend and a night with her does my head in. But we said we would always do it and we both have some money saved so decided we would. However since spending a lot of money and booking the trip, I have since got together with my soul mate. This has made me not want to go even more. I know my boyfriend isn't happy about me going, but tells me I should and that he loves me and nothing will change. My friend herself as a partner and they are staying together and they both agree that it's only six months and every tings fine, got their whole lives together as she puts it. Problem is I do really want to go, but unsure about how I will cope, with the situation and her and leaving my boyfriend who I ache for when I don't see for a day. What do I do?
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (8 September 2007):
Go and have a good time. You may never have a chance like this again. Your word should be your bond. If you bail you'll destroy your own opinion of yourself.
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reader, Jualsy  +, writes (7 September 2007):
 There are two reasons for you not going....your circumstances have changed, but also you didn't want to go anyway!!
What is wrong with saying NO.......a smile on your face..nothing aggressive and assuming that your friend will understand.........her problem if she doesn't.
You owe it to yourself to make your own happiness.......make a choice that will makr you happy and go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): Well, can you get your $ back? If you really want to go & it's only because of the new boyfriend that you're unsure then I say go. If you're "soul mates" which I don't believe it by the way, then he'll be there when you get back. And you can't exactly screw your mate over now can you?
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