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writes:This may seem like a weird thing to talk about but i do not understand why my brother is this way. He seems to have an unhealthy obsession or fetish with pregnant women. I few yrs ago i found pictures on his computer of naked pregnant women, and he also had lots of cuttings from magazines and papers, so women had theire bellys missing or had a face drawn inside them. He said he dosent know why he does it and promised to stop. That was a lie because a few days ago my mum found the same thing on his computer. I am worrid because i am 3 months pregnant and i dont want to be the subject of his unhealthy fetish. Why do you think that he is like this and what should i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): I don't like the sound of it I'm afraid. I think you need to speak to your GP or Nurse and perhaps he needs a referral to a psychologist or counsellor because his behaviour is far from normal. He is also in denial and not telling the truth about his actions so this would indicate he knows it is wrong in some way or there are feelings to hide. In some ways you have the perfect 'excuse' with your own pregnancy for you and your Mum to tackle this with your brother together and ensure things change. Some people act out their deep feelings through images. Until such time I would keep some distance so you are not stimulating his fears (or whatever it is) further.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (21 June 2009):
 Maybe he should see a psychologist or something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): I'd like to see if I can answer your problem at all. I'm a male who also has an attraction for pregnancy - not always, just if the woman is fit and attractive. I never found it ugly or 'fat' or in any way negative.
Boys grow up trying to find sexual satisfaction in porn - it's usually the only way for young teenagers to find out about sex. But porn is really bland and fake - it's acting for cash. But sex is based on the attraction between people, so a pregnant woman can seem like almost a symbol of sexuality, in a way - she's obviously been having sex, and she's healthy and fertile. It can be incredibly feminine and attractive.
It does sound obsessive to be cutting out pictures of them from magazines and drawing on them, so maybe he has some fears about it. To some people it's like an alien growing inside another person, and freaks them out. My female student housemates often said how pregnancy disgusted them, so maybe he is temporarily mixed up about his feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): Well you're his sister, so he might not even go there, or at least he knows that it freaks you out and probably won't tell you.
This, unfortunately, is your brother's problem. You and your mom need to stop snooping on your brother's things, and he needs to be more careful about making you guys uncomfortable.
Other than that, he's allowed to have whatever fetish he wants. Give him the benefit of the doubt and don't make things more embarrassing for him than they already are. If you feel like you are in danger, then I think it makes sense to take action, but right now, I think you both need to give each other some space!
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reader, Starlights +, writes (21 June 2009):
 alot of people have strange fetish's, ive never heard of this particular one though!
i think if you feel uncomfortable then speak to him, tell him your fears, how your pregnant and how you dont want any part in this, and see what he says?
its hard to stop once you have a fetish and to be honest he isnt harming anyone gazing at pregnant women! but have it out with him, i dont think he'd stop as it sounds as if he has an artistic liking for it.
talk to him and find out.
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