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writes:MOD NOTE: OP's own title:..When me and my partner waited over a year before we had sex together, we were teenagers, and by the time we did have sex, we were 17. I loved it, couldn't get enough of it, and it was always me instigating it (of course, as teenagers, we had to sneak around, do it in my car etc.).Even after we moved in together, I still liked and wanted sex.However, for the past few months, nearly three quarters of a year, I just haven't wanted sex. At all. I've been trying to avoid it as much as I possibly can, using headaches, exhaustion or illness as an excuse. He still has the same sex drive and wants sex often, but I never, ever want it, and as far as my feelings go, I couldn't care less if we never had it again.We're both 21, this isn't normal. I'm not supposed to lose my sex drive so young. I must confess, I have an anxiety disorder, but I've had that for two years now, and this problem has been going on for just under a year. I've changed medications twice in the past year, but even when I was off medication, I still didn't want to have sex.I'm not depressed, I just have an anxiety disorder which I am getting treated for, but it's also the reason I can't see anybody in person about my problems with sex. Along with my anxiety, I have paranoia, and would be afraid they suggest we break up - we're getting married next year!Seeing someone in person is most certainly out of the question, I'm not well enough and I never leave the house except to go to the hospital to see my psychiatrist (who can't help me with the sex issue).I just don't know what to do anymore, he's, understandably, very frustrated, and it's getting to the point I don't want to go to bed because he'll want sex. Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice, and I'm really glad you're a lot better now! Unfortunately, my psychiatrist isn't a free for all, and has told me before he's only there to help me directly with my illness (he's an NHS psychiatrist), but I appreciate your answer!
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reader, romany +, writes (5 August 2010):
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Instead of just my safety zones, i even managed a huge festival with 20,000 other people, in a huge airfield, tackled both fears of open spaces and lots of people.
I can guarentee that your psychiatrist is well and truly adequate to discuss your sexual appetite, he hears it all the time, its one of the most common problems, one of my 'clinic' mates (bless him) was petrified when he spoke to his psychiatrist about his inability to gain an erection, and it turned out to be his pills, they changed them and now he is ok.
Please discuss this with your psychiatrist, while you have this kind of thing going on in your head, your mental health isn't getting any better.
If you'd like anyone to discuss your agrophobia, and just talk or find out how i overcame my fears, give me a private inbox, I'd be happy to share my story.
Take care hun, xx
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reader, romany +, writes (5 August 2010):
Hiya,
6 years go, I had the mother of all breakdowns, I lost 8 months of my life, and I mean lost, I can't remember a thing about any of it, My memory is also sketchy, and a bit 'ropey' from 2000 onwards, and short term is affected, this has resulted in Agrophobia, and obviously clinical depression, which usually go hand in hand with memory loss, however, due to discussing EVERYTHING with my psychiatrist, including lack of sexual appetite, my pills are almost honed perfectly for me, my depression is in remission, and with careful medication, I can go to most places now, instead of just my 'safet
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