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writes:I have been in a relationship for 1 and a half years. We are in love but recently he moved to another country for work but then told me that he wants to meet my family and wants to make things work. I know I love him but the thought of taking him home has made me really look at the relationship... I don't want him to meet my family. I am tempted to pick up the phone and break it off. This has nothing to do with my family... its the thought of making this commitment with him. How do you know when its time to let go. I fear I will hurt him... as I am withdrawing emotionally already! Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, steph.x +, writes (20 December 2007):
if you cant let the "love of your life" meet your family after the amount of time youve been together then i feel sorry for the poor man. and you need to came face to face with him and be honest to him, he deserves that and you never know you might work it out.. but dont string him along and waste his time and your own
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (15 December 2007):
 This relationship doesn't seem to be evenly matched. You should be elated to be with him and proud to introduce him to everyone you know or something is amiss.
If you have doubts about any portion of this relationship it is time to find someone else. Doc
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 I don't think you love him, as your man, and it is about time to be honest to yourself and to him.
Because also, you do not talk about another alternative: Telling him, you are not ready for a commitment, and you want to continue for sometime more like this and see what happens in the future.
you just say you want to break off or up whatever.
It is not love.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 I think a solution would simply be to be honest with your boyfriend and tell him - "I'm not ready for you to meet my family yet. I will tell you when I am ready".
Take a good look at the reasons why you feel this way, however. Is there some reason that you don't want a commitment with him? This is providing you with a opportunity to delve a bit deeper into your own needs and desires. I wouldn't break up over it, but I'd certainly look into it. Long distance relationships are hard and take a huge commitment. Maybe it's not enough for you right now, or you feel too young to be tied down when the relationship is too much like hard work. All valid complaints if you are not happy inside the relationship. You aren't engaged, so you should really try do decide for yourself what you want. I know that you don't wish to hurt him, but this is the right time to decide if this is working for you still. Take Care and Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): I can't understand why, if you are in love with him, you want to break up with him. I know I'm only a mere man and have difficulty understanding some things, but this just doesn't make any sense to me at all!
Maybe you're afraid of commitment?
It's time to go when you no longer love each other or want to spend any more time with each other, and that doesn't sound to me like now.
Phil
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (14 December 2007):
 Well he isnt doing anything wrong by wanting to meet your family. That just means that he is certain your the one to committ to. If it is such a bother for you then simply pull him aside and talk things out with him. Let him know that you dont feel it is the right time for that yet. Talking things out with him will be a more civilized way to handle this situation rather than breaking a 1 and a half relationship over something that can easily be resolved. If you love him, this situation isnt worth losing him over. Give him a break. Theres nothing wrong about committing to someone...Just make sure their the one you'd like to committ to and dont lie to yourself about it. Good luck!
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