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writes:hello,i meet this guy a few weeks ago, and he did all texting so he must have liked me eveything was going really well and i did stay round his house a few times where he wanted to have sex and i said to wait a little longer to i get used to him which he did but keep saying he was really frustrated and not used to girls wanting to wait.then the text messages stoped so i then started texting him that went on for a few days then out of nowehere he said by txt that i need someone on my own level? what did he mean by that? and that im a nice girl but we should just be mates and that he wish he could feel different,i did tell him i liked him a lot but he seemed not to listen.Do you think i should keep trying to see if i could get him back.or just leave it the only probleam is i cant stop thinking of him and sometimes go around his house to see if hes in then drive off again please help. he is in his 30s and a bit older then me
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): He really isn't worth it. Sorry to say this, but it sounds like he was only interested in you for the sex. Your obviously a really nice girl, and want alot more within a relationship. You totally did the right thing in asking to wait. Don't text him again, you don't need him in your life. If he wants friendship then thats okay, but don't look desperate in front of him. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): NO! Do not keep trying to get him back. I think its pretty clear that his primary interest in you was sexual, sorry to say.Telling you he wants someone on his own level means that he wants a woman who is willing to get into bed with him pretty quickly. Since that's not what you want, he is telling you you're nice just to soften his message. He really does not want even to try to develop a real relationship with you.Just be glad that you have discovered sooner, rather than later, that you and he have nothing in common, and are not "on the same page." Look at it this way: you are free now to forget about him and to look forward to meeting a man who will take a genuine interest in you, and like and care about you for who you are - as well as finding you attractive. Such a man will, one would hope, want to make love to you too - BUT he would be willing to respect your wishes to get better acquainted, first!
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 No he is not on your level.
If he really liked you he would understand and respect your wishes and waited.
Please do not waste your time for this man, who primarily after scoring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): This is a really easy one to answer.
He wants sex and he wants it now. You don't and want to wait. Incompatibility.
He respects your decision so doesn't see any point in continuing to try to get you between the sheets.
No sex, so no point in banging his head agaist the wall. He's suggesting he's not the one for you and vice-versa. He's suggesting that you find another guy who is willing to wait until you're ready for sex.
He would like to stay friends with you though - possibly because you might change your mind. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it or you'll regret it later.
Phil
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 Sweetie, im sorry to say but this guy isnt worth the trouble. Obviously your too good for him and all he wants is a girl who is sorta fast i should say. He said " you should find someone on your level", in other words that means you should find someone mature. Someone who is willing to wait for you and NOT get frustrated just because you want to hold yourself. You dont need him or any man like that. Just because he is older does not mean he is mature. He is being selfish and your too good for that.Try to forget this guy because he lost something very special. Good luck on finding Mr. Right!!!
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