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writes:My boyfriend is 20 years old, and i'm 16. This is the first serious relationship he has had, but my second. I have known him for 9 months and we have been together for 5 months. We met at work and he is my supervisor. I think i love him and i know he loves me too. He is planning to go to Ibiza in July with a group of his mates. I don't want him to go as i will miss him too much, and i'm also scared he will cheat on me while he is there. I don't want to stop him from going, but i don't want to lose him. What should i do?
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (15 April 2008):
 ...... and the last anonymous answerer has got a really, really insightfully good idea! Never thought of that one myself, wish I had, but how brilliant is that???
I'd be willing to bet that if you did that, the next holiday he booked would be just for the two of you - and sod 'the lads'!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Do exactly this. Be all pleased for him, tell him to go and enjoy himself etc etc. THEN drop this line, by the way I will be going away with my friends at the same time, we have booked a holiday to Majorca (or somewhere) and BOOK ONE. It works, trust me, he will be so worried about what you are doing, he wont be physically able to cheat, and will be worried sick his whole holiday about you. Do it. You are only young yet, but your feelings are the same as a woman twice your age, we have all had this. My boyfriend went away without me once and I went away the same time. He did nothing but ring me the whole time, and now we are married....
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (14 April 2008):
You're not going to be able to stop him going. To even try reeks of posessivenes and is not a good trait in a woman. If you'd arranged a trip to Ibiza with your friends, would you take any notice if he told you that you couldn't go because he was afraid you would cheat on him? Or would you tell him to shove it where the sun doesn't shine and tell him to get over it?
A surefire way of losing him is to act all jealous and demand he stays at home. The choice is yours, really!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): You are scared he will cheat on you ?? This means that you cant trust him. If you honestly believe that he will cheat on you why the hell are you with him hun? A relationship is based on trust, without trust your relationship wont stand a chance.
Anyway, what's the harm in him going away woth the boys? While he's away why dont u arrange something with the girls, it will do you both good to let your hair down.
If you honestly believe that he loves you and you love him then there is no need to worry.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Tell him how you feel but dont stop him from going he will never forgive you. If he cheats make sure you tell him you wont be giving him a second chance. That should make him think and hopfully he wont cheat but that just prooves what he is and how much you mean to him if he does.
Good luck.
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