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writes:Okay here's my problem.I love giving my boyfriend head because i know he enjoys it so much. But, I can't stand the taste of come.With my ex boyfriend, he told me when he was going to come and I just switched and used my hand. But my boyfriend doesn't tell me when he's going to come and I don't want to tell him to because I don't want him to become self conscious or offended that I don't want his come in my mouth. Won't it ruin the moment a little if I go and spit it out in the Loo?Is there any way i can hint without being too blunt?My boyfriend is my second sexual partner and he's older than me by 6 years, so I feel like he expects me to be as experienced as he is and swallow. Thanks for your time.
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reader, yoginipirate  +, writes (12 April 2008):
 You need not worry about what you "can" or cannot do. Hopefully you're an adult, you're in charge of your own boundaries. Take some of the advice given...I doubt someone would be too disturbed about the way that you deal with the aftermath, while he's soaking up the post-orgasmic bliss. Green monkey has some good tricks...smile & sache yourself to the bathroom...nice view on the way out:) He should be happy you love to give him head. Hope he's giving the proper attention to your southerly parts!
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reader, greenmonkey00 +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Heck no you don't have to swallow. Keep a washcloth handy and spit it in there. Fold it up and don't even mention it. Or if you really wanna get freaky, let it dribble down your chin and smile victoriously at him. He doesn't derive any physical pleasure from you actually swallowing it, so if he tastes like crap and it majorly sucks to swallow, don't. :) Happy sucking.
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Hi there
NO NO NO
I'm like you toooo. Absolutely cannot stand the taste of it.
NO - you don't HAVE to swallow it. NO - swallowing doesn't mean you are more experienced. NO - your boyfriend has no right to expect this of you, and honestly, any DECENT guy would know to warn a girl before-hand. I've had many sexual partners, ranging from one-night-stands, to long term boyfriends, and honestly, not ONE of them ever just came in my mouth. I was always warned.
You won't offend him. They are pretty well aware of the fact that the taste of their cum puts off many women.
And - i don't think you have to even put this to him lightly. You can just ask him, next time you go down on him, to warn you before he's about to blow, because
"you'd like to watch him" or,
"you'd like him to cum over your body",
or something like that. Just do this a couple of times, and he'll soon enough get the hint.
Spitting it out won't help. By the time you reach the loo / basin, the taste will already be in your mouth, and that's the worst part.
Sex is supposed to be an enjoyable experience for BOTH of you, so, take a stand for yourself.
Good luck
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reader, MissKin +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Being experienced = swallowing? I think not :) don't worry. it's a personal choice. most decent guys understand this. Looking disgusted and spitting it out ruin the moments - a trip to the loo is a bit out of the question.
You should just ask him sweetly if he could tell you when he's about to come because you don't really like to swallow. If he asks why just say it's because you never really have and it's something you can't adapt to - you don't even have to mention the taste. if he asks if it's the taste - you just say 'thats not it'. A little white lie never really hurt i don't suppose. this should be okay.
You can't really hide this from him. You could also just 'dribble' it out afterwards in a 'sexy' way.. but i have no idea how this works because it's rather unappealing to me (but that cud just be me. other people seem to have gud tips about this. hopefully you'll get some.) but this is just an idea.
Hope it works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): It's your mouth. I am sure there are things that he preferes not to do and doesn't. Be honest with him. Why be with someone you can't be honest enough to tell I don't like the taste of cum. It is not like you are going stop giving him head. tell him this "I really love giving you head but I don't like the taste of cum, so when you are about to come tell me so i can squirt it on my belly or somewhere else kinky"(if you are into that) men like kinky stuff like that or just simply spit it out and give him a choice either you spit it out or you don't give him head. I am sure you know which one he will pick.
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