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writes:In a nut shell my ex's birthday is coming up and part of me wants to wish her a happy birthday and the other half doesn't because I don't want any contact with her, but im not a horrible person and I don't want to feel like a bitch because I didnt wish her well on her birthday. she texted me on my birthday a few months ago and that was the last thing i heard from her. We split up coming up to a year ago and it has taken me this long to get over her, she moved on very quickly and it broke my heart. so im basically in limbo because i dont want contact with her really, as i have nothing to say to her anymore, but then if i do wish her happy birthday i feel like she will want contact, and I dont see the point, so should I just leave it? thanks for your input guys.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 September 2011):
 I would just leave it.... it's over and done.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 September 2011):
 Yes, leave it. If you give her an opening to contact you back, all the effort you've done so far for moving on will be pointless. Anyway- she is an EX. Ergo, not part of your life anymore, not a friend a coworker an acquaintance etc. Just an ex. So NOT wishing her well on her birthday is neither horrible , not impolite nor inappropriate- it's just normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2011): Just leave it, its taken a long time to get over her as it is. Anniversaries of any kind be it birthdays or Xmas always make us stop n think - but why bother, she's moved on and you don't want her thinking you haven't do you?!
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reader, cheers  +, writes (30 September 2011):
 If my ex sms me, I always have these questions. Is it real? does he still care after broke up with me? What's for? Why?
It's just a coutesy if i decide to reply back. but i choose to ignore it. do u get it?
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