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writes:I'm so tired of being in love with this guy, that i can't have. I thought i would get over him soon, because it'll never work out...but yet, im still sitten here, love sick, and tired of it. I need help! I don't know how to get over him. Here's a shocker...he's one of my teacher's...i know you guys are very bored from hearing another one of these silly teenage infatuations that never end the way we want them to. I've heard from people, that my feelings for him will end once i graduate from high school, but i have a strong feeling they won't. It's been a year since i first started having these feelings, and they just wont go away. I wouldn't say i'm obsessed, i'm just in love. Nothing's happened between us, just me and my silly crush and my head is saying, "FORGET HIM, AND MOVE ON" but my heart is saying, "I LOVE HIM, I LOVE HIM" I don't know which one is right, and which one is the most strong, i think it's the heart, but im not sure...i've tried to be attracted to guys my age, but after looking for a year, nobody's ever came close... I'm pretty sure this teacher of mine feels the same way, because he looks at me a lot, and when i start to look his way, he quickly turns away....when we catch eachother's eyes, my heart skips...and i have this feeling that i can't explain...i know this sounds cheesy, but it's just the way i feel I need help! im comfused, and at the same time, i want to get over him, but i just can't seem to...HELP!!
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reader, nickie123 +, writes (10 January 2009):
 omg i am so happy you feel the same way i feel the same thing is happening to mebut my teacher is married and has kids i know thats sick and he always give me look; well you can get over him knowing that your better and not even him deserves you teachers have a effect on kids when there trying to help the student right away think that the teacher have feelings for the student...yea a teacher could fall in love with a student but they probably feel just like you love sick cause they know they can't have you because that could be considered as molesting and he can loose his job but this happens to most girls and guys in our teenage time its normal your not crazyyou can get over him by not talking to much with him and ignore him smetimes and you will get used to doing that and you willl be over him i think that your not in love i thinkk you onli have a crush on him i hopes i helped :)
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reader, urbanking99  +, writes (23 December 2008):
Oh dear the familiar story once again. No doubt it is very common and one that really tugs at your heart strings. I too am in the same position even though I am 45. I am absoutely, madly, passionately and deeply in love with my best friend & will do absolutely anything for her and her 3 children. I have been in love with her for over a year.
We have spoken about this, we both value each others friendship that we know it would change the dynamic of our relationship should we progress any further. I have not felt like this about anyone in over 20 years and even now the age I am makes it no easier in fact probably more difficult than when I fancied someone in school all those years ago.
No matter what age you are, LOVE, when you find it is extremely emotional and emotive. Love is built upon trust, respect and communication both verbal and physical. I still love (yes I DO mean love) my partner of 20 years ago even though she is happily married, with a child and lives in her own country.
Don't just focus your love on someone else, make sure first of all that it is love and not just lust that is driving you. These are two totally different things.
Yes you will get over this teacher crush but you will in the future remember it with fondness and realise it is a part of growing up. I still remember my teacher who I "fell in love with" with a smile on my face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): sry, i accidentaly put male, but i wrote this, and i'm a FEMALE!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): i have an idea of what your going through. I love this guy and have done so for ages. i want my feelings to disappear but i have a feeling they won't ever. There are many people in the same boat as you. i am trying to focus my love on someone else, even if its just small. try thinking about all their bad qualities :) i hope you get over him.
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