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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going through a rough time and no matter how much i tried to discuss it with him or how i was feeling he never seemed to want to talk, he just said i was being stupid. i began to think i was for a while and then one day i came home early from work and he was moving his stuff out with out telling me. He still has not explained why. he keeps texting me and telling me that he misses me. i do really miss and still love him very much but i dont know where to go from here, do i try to talk things through and try to work it out or do i move on? I am so confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Communication should never stop, which you've confirmed it has stopped. First step is to tell him you want to talk and clear things up if you can. Sometimes, when things go south, it might be better to start off writing letters, this helps if one or both might feel embarrassed by there feelings, this permits the other to think it over, get mad, then cool off then think straight and reply. Make sure this is understood how this will take place or work if you decide to use this method.
Many relationships go sour because close, deep communication is lost.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 I'm more inclined to tell you to pick up and move on... ignore his text messages and phone calls... that's what I would do in your situation.
...but, this is your life. As long as you are not fooling yourself by still having feelings for him and you think there might be something left to salvage from the pain he's caused, then it might be good to speak with him. I still think that moving on might be your best bet, but a conversation might give you some closure on the whole affair.
That's my thinking -- good luck in whatever you decide to do for you!
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