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writes:I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this problem.. but here goes anyway. I created a fake myspace profile around a year ago. At the time, I'd lost most of my friends, social life and honestly, I was so depressed and the fake seemed a good way to escape my life into a place where I had control but not full control. I never expected it to escalate to the point I'm at now. I'm female, and the character I created was male, so obviously this complicates things like phone conversation etc. anyway, to make him seem more genuine, I created several other unactive fakes so that when he talked to people, they would think he was genuine and such. Now several of the inactive fakes have been discovered but I'm not sure how as they have no friends or anything and this caused me to have a slight panic attack and stuff and then delete the myspace, the msn and everything else. Me thinking that I was done with the whole thing but now, my life feels so empty. The constant texting has stopped, I have no one to talk to on msn or myspace or anything and I honestly am so depressed. I remade the profile, explained to several of the people I was talking to that I had been away and I wasn't sure what had happened to my myspace and such. It's like I'm addicted to being this person, and that I can't live without it. What can I do to stop this? because it's so out of control now. I'm emotionally connected to these people I'm talking to as they are to me, and I know I'm hurting them because I'm getting hurt too. I just don't know what to do any more.
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (28 January 2009):
 Wow, 13 answers and very few has anything to do with the question. I am disappointed that it could go so far between two aunts meant to help. Anyway the best advice is to let it go and erase the account. Why not have an account for yourself? You had this guy get a lot of friends, why can't you do so yourself? My feeling is that you lack the confidence but in another persona you can act how you want. Well as this guy you are still yourself right? You can't possibly fake every single conversation with everyone for a year, there has to be you in there talking. Do you want to come clean to everyone you have lied to and attempt to keep them as friends or did you want to delete everything? If you keep the account you will lose them, but in a much more embarrassing way. My advice is to delete this guy, possibly get closure by telling the people you chat with that you didn't mean for it to go this far. If you do not want to do this then simply delete and move on. Try making a real profile. Or get away from the internet altogether for a little while. Keep yourself busy doing other activities. I used to have a fake profile to "test" how truthful my friends boyfriends were. It was fun and very addicting to be someone else for a little while. But it can't last forever as you have found out. I have also lost all of my friends before and it is hard but something you must finally face. Accept being alone for a minute, cry if you want, then get up and do something about it. You have kept yourself distracted for long enough. If you want to email me feel free. Take care of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): Hi there, im sorry to here about your problem but i think the best thing you can do is just delete these profiles and try to stay strong. i know it will be hard but you are running the risk of hurting yourself in which case you need to be selfish and put yourself first. if you think that will be too hard you should try using them less and less to wean yourself offf them like any other addiction. good luck i hope it works out for you(:
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