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anonymous
writes:I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this problem.. but here goes anyway. I created a fake myspace profile around a year ago. At the time, I'd lost most of my friends, social life and honestly, I was so depressed and the fake seemed a good way to escape my life into a place where I had control but not full control. I never expected it to escalate to the point I'm at now. I'm female, and the character I created was male, so obviously this complicates things like phone conversation etc. anyway, to make him seem more genuine, I created several other unactive fakes so that when he talked to people, they would think he was genuine and such. Now several of the inactive fakes have been discovered but I'm not sure how as they have no friends or anything and this caused me to have a slight panic attack and stuff and then delete the myspace, the msn and everything else. Me thinking that I was done with the whole thing but now, my life feels so empty. The constant texting has stopped, I have no one to talk to on msn or myspace or anything and I honestly am so depressed. I remade the profile, explained to several of the people I was talking to that I had been away and I wasn't sure what had happened to my myspace and such. It's like I'm addicted to being this person, and that I can't live without it. What can I do to stop this? because it's so out of control now. I'm emotionally connected to these people I'm talking to as they are to me, and I know I'm hurting them because I'm getting hurt too. I just don't know what to do any more.
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reader, Stayc63088  + ♥, writes (28 January 2009):
 Wow, 13 answers and very few has anything to do with the question. I am disappointed that it could go so far between two aunts meant to help. Anyway the best advice is to let it go and erase the account. Why not have an account for yourself? You had this guy get a lot of friends, why can't you do so yourself? My feeling is that you lack the confidence but in another persona you can act how you want. Well as this guy you are still yourself right? You can't possibly fake every single conversation with everyone for a year, there has to be you in there talking. Do you want to come clean to everyone you have lied to and attempt to keep them as friends or did you want to delete everything? If you keep the account you will lose them, but in a much more embarrassing way. My advice is to delete this guy, possibly get closure by telling the people you chat with that you didn't mean for it to go this far. If you do not want to do this then simply delete and move on. Try making a real profile. Or get away from the internet altogether for a little while. Keep yourself busy doing other activities. I used to have a fake profile to "test" how truthful my friends boyfriends were. It was fun and very addicting to be someone else for a little while. But it can't last forever as you have found out. I have also lost all of my friends before and it is hard but something you must finally face. Accept being alone for a minute, cry if you want, then get up and do something about it. You have kept yourself distracted for long enough. If you want to email me feel free. Take care of yourself.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (28 January 2009):
 Uh huh. Suddenly you're my friend, not the man who said I had a 'bitch complex'. I'm so done with this conversation, because you clearly can't own up to your own poor choices, so speaking to you about them clearly isn't getting me anywhere.
Good luck to you, 'friend'.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (28 January 2009):
Not only is it nearly impossible to understand you because of your lacking sentence structure and your obvious inability to spell correctly, I never claimed to be an expert in any of my posts, nor did I accuse you of being a "lier" (It's LIAR, by the way.). You are putting words in my mouth and that is simple wrong.
I don't know this girl nor do I know her entire story and quite frankly, NEITHER DO YOU.
If you had a problem with me asking you quite simply about your post, and not being hostile or rude in the way you have been to me....you should take your own advice and emailed me instead of calling me names in public. We're only in this 'drama' because of you. If you want to fight in public and cause a stir, then I'll gladly drop to your level, just to show you how much of a jerk you look.
If I was misinterpreting what you say, then you should have simply come to me via email and said, "No, this is what I meant." And it would all be over. I would have apologized and we would have gone our separate ways in a friendly manner. Instead, you decided to throw around names and accusations like a four year old and get mean spirited and rude. Who's the one in the wrong here, then?
I'll repeat this. If someone questions you and misinterprets what you say, then YOU be the bigger man FIRST and email THEM, instead of calling them names. Then when they call you out for acting like a jerk, don't say "Well, you should have emailed me." PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH SON.
That way, you won't look like a thin-skinned oversensitive know it all like you did here.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (27 January 2009):
Bitch complex? I wasn't being hostile, I was saying "Cite your references" for the sake of the poster. I was never once rude to you nor did I stoop to the immature level of calling you names.
You need to chill the hell out, dude, I wasn't trying to get on your case, I wanted to know where you got the idea that her posing as a fake person online was illegal. If you want to drag out the big guns and act like I did something wrong, you need to take a good hard look at why you got all pissed off at me before you start throwing names around like a four year old.
I have Role Played online for YEARS on AOL and yahoo and have several 'character's that have yahoo and AOL profiles. My 'Characters" aren't real people, they're people that I 'play'. Just like she's doing. That could be cited as me pretending to be a person that doesn't exist. Hell, I can't see why on earth it makes sense at all that it should be illegal. It's technically harmless. She's not scamming people for money, it's just a profile on a myspace site.
Take a step from the computer and breathe before you jump down someone's throat. I wasn't being hostile to you and I'd appreciate the same level of courtesy I give.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (26 January 2009):
Then cite your references, PTV. If you're going to say things like "This is illegal and you could go to jail" then we'd probably all appreciate why it would be illegal. Show us how she might go to jail, post your links and your proof.
Grey areas don't send people to jail. Illegal activities send people to jail.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (26 January 2009):
PTVguy, creating false profiles on myspace is not illegal and will not cause her to go to jail.
I agree with Holly, you need to find some sort of social networking outside of the computer. Even if it's doing something simple like joining a club or group, it'll get you outside away from the internet and meeting new people.
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reader, Holly7000 +, writes (26 January 2009):
As for the fake and real people and fake Id's - just delete it all - gone. I don't think you will hurt any of them much - they'll get over it and will have their own lives and other friends. Come out of cyberspace and start living (after you've finished posting on this site!) There are real people on here by the way :-) so come back any time you want.
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reader, Holly7000 +, writes (26 January 2009):
You need to get out and off the computer. You are going a bit stir crazy sitting there worrying about it. Join something - like a local drama group - where you will meet nice people, have fun and learn to express yourself. Be strong and make that first move. Where do you live? If you want I can find out about one for you and get you the details - then it's up to you to step outside into the real world and go there. It will be nerve-wracking but good for your confidence and after the first visit you will be a different person I think. I assume you are still at school - this will give you an interest and friends outside of school and home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): Hi there, im sorry to here about your problem but i think the best thing you can do is just delete these profiles and try to stay strong. i know it will be hard but you are running the risk of hurting yourself in which case you need to be selfish and put yourself first. if you think that will be too hard you should try using them less and less to wean yourself offf them like any other addiction. good luck i hope it works out for you(:
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