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writes:i cheated on my girlfriend, it was only a kiss, i know its wrong still yes, i'm not on here looking to be judged, what i want to know is, should i tell her, she'll be destroyed, it was only a kiss and she's cheated on me a few times before in the same way
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (8 February 2011):
 I think CaringGuy his the nail on the head...
There is a reason why she cheated and why you cheated. A kiss is not "just" a kiss. Usually it's an expression of mutual attractions, lust or love.
Maybe it's time for you both to be single and do as you please?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Well, would you want her to tell you if she'd ONLY kissed someone else? If yes,what would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Be honest with each other about what you've both done and how you feel & then decide where you want to go from there. If you both want to try properly to have a relationship then you can't be messing around with other people on the side. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Yes, as she told you the times before, it's only fair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): TELL HER GO TELL HER RIGHT NOW!!!!!! I have to admit if I knew my bf cheated on me I would be sad, but I would still give him another chance, and if your gf really and honestly loves you she'll give you a second chance too!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Tell her. Tell her you made a mistake and that you are sorry. If it's meant to be between the two of you you will work through it. But perhaps it's best to tell her even if it means the end of the relationship... it's just as bad to cheat and not tell the person as it is to cheat and tell the person. By telling at least you are honest and show you at least have a minimal amount of respect for your partner. By not telling her you basically show that you don't even respect her enough to be honest with her.
If she will find out is one thing, but if that's the kind of relationship you want to have is a complete different thing.
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reader, eloora +, writes (8 February 2011):
She would be even more destroyed if she heard that you cheated from someone other than you, and the truth always comes out in the end. Tell her so that she can decide for herself whether she can handle it. If she has cheated on you before like this then perhaps she will be more likely to understand how this lack of judgement can happen. Of course there is always the possibility that you have both cheated because this relationship isn't right for either of you.
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reader, babyghost +, writes (8 February 2011):
What you did wasn't right, but what she did also wasnt right. By the sounds of it, she was honest about kissing someone else, so you should be too. And hope she forgives you like you forgave her.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 February 2011):
I think personally, that this is a sign it's not working out between you. She's cheated, now you've cheated. How many more times will you both cheat? How many more lies? How little respect must you both have that you both cheat on each other.
I don't think this can work at all unless you are both honest now. And that means you coming clean. So yes, tell her. Destroyed or not, she has the right to choose whether she wants to stay with someone who has cheated on her.
But, like I said, perhaps the time has come for you to both move on if you are both cheating on each other.
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