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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for close two years and i live with him. at first it was great but now its just the usual routine. im bored i think.. thats why i cheated. he knows i kissed this other guy but thinks thats it... well i slept with him several times. back then this guy was single and when he got back with his girlfriend he said we cant do this anymore, i was gutted. it stopped for a while but i knew i still felt something so a few months later down the line we rekindled this affair and now im sleepin with him again but this time its at work. oh did i forget to mention hes my supervisor? he wasn back then but he is now and if anyone found out he could lose his job. hes risking it for me. this past month in particular we have gotten a lot closer than ever and i do genuinley feel something for him. he has always said its just fun but lately were just always kissin and cuddling not just have sex. it feels great. hes amazing and hes also said that its a shame we both have partners. which is true but then on the other hand can i really hurt my boyfriend? but... if i think of him my heart melts. help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): i just want to say thanks to all your reply's. It's so hard for me to do this but the truth is i still don't know what to do for the best. i am torn & so very confused. the truth is i m not a bad person.. well i have tried not to be but life is confusing. I realize that i dont deserve my boyfriend but he loves me with all his heart and i cant hurt him but losing my lover - well i cant bare that either. im just scared that he wont want me and i make the wrong decision ?! my 'lover' has said that its a shame were both in a relationship and tbh that meant the world to me. he makes me feel happy and wanted just like i want to be. but then my bf has been there for me through it all and has done so much for me, which i dont deserve. Buttt thanks all so much for the answers
-the one who started it all-
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Tell your boyfriend the truth... there's no excuse for not telling him all this.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 January 2009):
 Honestly, you need to get a grip. Cheating is disrespectful to your partner.
Make up your mind which man you want and "fire" the other one. Stringing your BF along is just plain mean and once he finds out (and eventually he will) he will be devastated.
Your "lover" might or might not be interested in you as a GF, remember that, he's got his cake and eating it too. Besides, what is to stop him from cheating on you if you do get together? And would he ever trust you 100%? Doubtful.
Ask yourself if you are being fair to your BF.
Ask yourself WHY you are cheating.. Being bored is not the real reason.
You need to sit down and think about what you are doing and why you are doing it.
I know what I wrote sounds harsh, but I have been in your BF's shoes and it HURT like heck when you find out your partner cheats on you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): my dear angel what are you doing? You cant actually believe that this is right… or justify this by being bored, why not break it off with your boyfriend completely regardless of the fact that it might hurt his feelings, cause even though he might not know about this, it will hurt him and you coz a secret like that cant be kept forever, if you and your supervisor gets busted you deserved it, because you are both stringing two innocent people along, people who could be better of with someone that truly loves them and wont cheat on them, if this guy tells you today its over, youll probably stay with your boyfriend, WHY WHY are you doing this if you know in your heart that what you are doing is wrong, be a woman and cut this poor man lose, no one deserves to be in a relationship based on a lie, and the sooner you get this over and done with the better
BUT, sometimes we love one person with all our hearts and we start looking for what we cant find in them in someone else, if you love this guy, you have to own up if, tell him how you felt, and why you did it, perhaps he can find it in his heart to forgive you, love is something special, you can still turn this around, by putting more effort into your relationship with your boyfriend, come up with some suggestions find what you are looking for in the man you with, if possible, otherwise don’t keep him tied up in a relationship which will hurt him
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reader, beckski +, writes (9 January 2009):
 If your getting bored why not tell him ( your boyfriend) try n spice things up , cuddle up watching films or just finish it and tell him you wanna have aa little bit of fun.
If you dont want to hurt your boyfriend try and finish it with you supervisor or if you too really do like each other finish your boyfriend and he should finish his girlfriend and you too give it a go.If you really care about your boyfriends feelings you would stop or finish it with him so he doesnt get hurt as much as he would finding out of someone else or something. hope this has helped a little x
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