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writes:I cheat on my boyfriend and am more uninterested then I used to be, but I love him and don't want to break up. What is wrong with me? I'm not a victim and I'm not looking for sympathy. What I have done is wrong and I have issues that I need to fix, I do not know why I act the way I do.I know I sound like a completely awful person, and I personally hate cheaters so much, but then when I do it, it's just whatever... it doesn't make sense. Anyways we've been dating for 6 months and things have been awesome, we hung out every day talked all the time, but then I had to move back to school and ever since then I text him less, call him less, and have cheated on him. I don't know why I do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): I agree with several of the replies here.
It could be that you are losing interest due to the distance, or you are keeping him on standby until something better comes along. I do not know you or your life and am not hereto judge you, but i think that what you are doing is unfair, selfish, and wrong.
You really have only two choices, learn to control yourself and keep the feelings you have for him, which I cannot call love for the same reason as a previous answer. Or just end it now before you hurt him further, it is not fair to him, and the feelings of guilt will keep you back if you ARE willing to move on.
Other than those two, you have few options as he will find out eventually and i can almost guarantee that then you will be on your own.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 It sounds to make like you just want to make sure there's something better for you before you break up. That you don't want to be on your own at all. I think you need to just end things. It's not fair at all to him.
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 It seems that you are keeping this guy on standby whilst you are out enjoying yourself. It's a little selfish I think. If he was to do this to you... how would you feel?
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (8 November 2011):
I think you have a confused idea of what love is. You see, love is not about you, but about the other person. It is about putting what they want above yourself.
Therefore you don't love him. I don't disagree that you have many feelings for him, and a deep attachment, but that is not love.
You have a choice, you can continue as you are that show you to be weak, selfish and distrustful, or you can make the right choice, do the right thing. You'll feel much better about everything when you act like you have some respect for yourself and other people.
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