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writes:Me and this boy are quite close I consider him more trustworthy than some of my girl-friends, I thi k I like him and people think he gives off the impression he likes me more than a friend too. However, the other day he told me ' I think (girlsname) is hot I don't know whether I like her or not and I think he soes like since he has told me.What do I do I think I really like him ? Do I tell him ? Or how do I show him? Please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012): I'd hold off saying anything for now simply to allow for the very real possibility that he confided in you because he considers you a very close friend with whom he can be completely open and honest without any fear of embarassment or ridicule. If that is the case, you will have likely lost a potential teenage boyfriend you'd probably forget completely within a few years, but maybe you will have gained a close friend who you know will always be there for you and on whom you can depend, now and throughout your adult life."I consider him more trustworthy than some of my girl-friends."Boyfriends/girlfriends come and go but close friends are forever; I personally think every guy needs a go-to female confidante and every girl needs a go-to male confidante. I strongly advise you think very long and hard about whether you want to consider risking compromising thetrust you've established for now; not saying he's not interested in you and not saying you can't eventually be his girlfriend, just that at this moment you're in a unique situation where you'd be risking a valuable platonic friendship in hopes of an uncertain romantic relationship. From my over-50 POV best case scenario is in twenty years you and he will be BFFs in happy stable long-term relationships with other people, in large part because you will have relied on each other for mutual encouragement and support to guide through the rough patches.Last minute thought: Slight chance he could be questioning his own sexuality and by saying "I think [she's] hot" he really could be saying "I'm not gay" or even "I don't want to be gay but I am." Take it slow; he's a guy who should always be in your life, whether as boyfriend or BFF or husband of fifty years. Right now it would be very unfair to him for you to express feelings he may not be able to reciprocate for reasons having nothing to do with whether he "likes" you or not.PS: Having a male platonic friend on the "inside" will prove very valuable to you and your girlfriends as you go further in your dating lives. Girls always tell the truth to each other about guys, guys always lie to each other about girls. He'll appreciate knowing the truth about his guy friends as learned from your girlfriends, and you'll appreciate knowing the truth about his guy friends as learned from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhh I have never thought about it that way. But when we are together and someone asks him who he likes he always tells me to shutup and don't say anything not like I would. Why do you think he does this ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2012): Well i think maybe he might have did this to see your reaction, if you get jealous or not. Doing this shows that if you did show a sign of jealousy, this gives him a little bit of a giveaway to see if you like him or not. That or he sees you as a close friend and he just speaked his mind cause he can around you.
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