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writes:Hey there, this is my first time using the site. It seems there are some genuinely kind and helpful people on here so maybe you can help me out.I have something that it playing on my mind. I am in a relationship of 3 years. Recently I haven't seen my girlfriend a lot because we have both been working and we only really get to see each other at weekends. It's been 5 weeks since I last saw her and we had plans to meet up this weekend. When I spoke to her on Sunday however she said she can't see me now because she is going to meet up with a friend from university. Whilst at university this guy asked her out several times and even attempted to get her to cheat on me with him (thankfully to no avail).I have never made a fuss about her remaining friends with him despite his attempts, but I am quite irritated that it has been so long since we've seen each other and we get little time together as it is, now she is cancelling plans with me to see this friend. I am not worried about him trying anything, it is more that I am bothered about not getting to see her, since it means it will be at least another 3 weeks because of other commitments after this weekend.Am I being reasonable about this or just making a fuss about nothing? Any opinions are appreciated :)
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reader, Jstagrl  +, writes (17 April 2012):
Sweety there is only one thing in my life that I wish I had of listened too !
My gut ! Intution is one of our most powerful sensus and sadly its the first to be ignord. Pay attention to it, & remember insecurity is UNATTRACTIVE& can kill evrything! :)
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reader, Mr R +, writes (17 April 2012):
Mr R is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply, it's given me a piece of mind that at least I am not being completely overblown. I'll definitely have to sit down with her to discusss where we each stand. Thanks again :)
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 I don't blame you for feeling irritated. I think it's very rude of her to cancel her plans to see you to do something else, whether or not this other friend is involved.
She made a commitment to you and she should have kept it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 I don't know if it's reasonable, but I would make a big fuss too :). Friends are very important and they should not be neglected just because one is in a relationship, but , with such a tight schedule, and 5 weeks you guys don't meet, which will become eight if she chooses to see her friend...heck no. There are priorities after all, and apparently she has the wrong ones. Either she is taking you for granted, or she is not that bothered about keeping this relationship. . It's time for a good, honest talk.
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