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*innieGret
writes:Im have just turned 15, 5 days after my abortion. I did not want to get rid of my baby, but i did what everyone was telling me was best. The baby daddy already had a baby on the way so he told me that i was allowed to keep it, but it would be better for everyone if i got rid. Straight after my abortion i regretted it. Since i have had it done, i have been ignoring all my friends, i have not been out much at all, i have just been sat up in my room crying, most nights i cry my self to sleep thinking about it. I cant talk to my mum about it, cause i am to scared, she knew about the abortion she went with me, but now i cannot talk to her about my problem. I do not know what to do, im scared for my health. I just need someone to talk to who has been through this :(
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reader, person12345  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 It really sounds like you did the right thing. This guy doesn't sound like he could have been a good father to your child. He sounds like a serial "baby daddy" in that he enjoys the control he can have over young women by getting them pregnant. You're very young, you have your whole life ahead of you. Before your abortion, your life as you knew it was going to end and be replaced by your life according to how you can sacrifice for your child. You have so much ahead of you now, so much more freedom, so many more options.
Your mom went with you, that means she supports you, she loves you. I know she can help you, talk to her. She wants to help.
I wasn't sure what you meant by you're concerned for your health, but your physical health is not in jeopardy, abortions are very, very safe. As for mental health, talk to your mom. The clinic that provided the abortion probably knows of free counseling you can go to.
And as Yesno said, please please invest in some birth control. Don't get pregnant again. Be safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): I had an abortion when I was 16. It was one of the worst times in my life. It was a very hard decision. But, I have come to terms with it. It's been about 4 years now. Get a dog from a shelter you can love and mother. That's what I did it made me feel so much better. I'm not with the man that got me pregnant anymore and I like it that way. You calling him a baby daddy is probably a good sign you had the abortion. Get smart and get on birth control. Make sure from now on you plan everything you do and get a good future ahead of you. You did the right thing. You are young and would have never been able to care for a baby. It's already done and over with. No sense in being mad at the past. All you can do now is move forward and make sure that never happens again. Cheer up sweetie life goes on.
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reader, Brody January 27th 1998  +, writes (6 April 2011):
Your mum will probably get mad but then she will want to help you most likely. maybe she will tell you things you never knew or something like that. I know I would find it scary too but eventually I would tell my mum
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reader, yesno +, writes (6 April 2011):
I'm a full grown man, sweetheart, and I'm telling you, you did the right thing. You must be heartbroken, but you have saved your own life. Use this opportunity to be smart. GET BIRTH CONTROL. Don't get pregnant again (until you are at least 30). And never see that the "baby daddy" again. In fact, never use that phrase again. They are called fathers and they should be expected to act like them. But in order to have that happen, you've got to act like a lady. Respect yourself and your body. You've got a long life, don't make any important decisions until you are 25, minimum.
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