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writes:Please help me. I love my boyfriend, he treats me like a princess. Lately I seem to start arguments and I moan about everything! I am certainly not the fun loving person I was when we met! I cry nearly everytime I see him, I just get upset at little things!I think I may be depressed(all the crying for no real reason) and also I can't seem to get myself interested in what I used to love.I can't get the energy to see friends, all I ever want to do is stay in bed!My questions are...Do you think I could be depressed?How can I help myself?How can I become a more lovable person around my boyfriend?I need to stop arguing and having a go at him over little things! Thanks in advance. X
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (26 February 2009):
 You are very welcome hon and I really hope that things get better for you. God is watching over you and he WILL see you thru!
Always,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much blue angel! Your advice is great. I'll keep you updated. X
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (26 February 2009):
It's possible that you may have some sort of medical problem. Hormone imbalances will cause the same effect. The same signs may be caused by depression. Being pregnant can give the same. Not sleeping well and poor nutrition can cause levels of certain chemicals in the brain to be out of control.Vitamins can help to keep the nutrients in your body more stabelized. Alcohol and drugs of any type can cause other problems as well. If you are on any prescribed meds, be sure to have regular checkups.
I will suggest first of all getting plenty of rest. Eat well and take good care of your hygeine. Use light therapy by having alot of light in the rooms you are mostly in. Go outside as often as possible, walking will help also. Sometimes people suffer from mild forms of depression by being alone too much, being too bored and giving into the bad feelings that can come with not getting out and doing things. Any changes in mood or behavior should ALWAYS be noted and NOT TAKEN LIGHTLY. It could be something pycholocial or medical and if it continues, especially long term you should seek medical treatment.
You don't want to waste anytime in getting to know what the underlying problem is. Moments wasted can cause conditions to be worse. You have to try to get in contact with your own feelings. Ask yourself why you feel bad or upset? Talk to your boyfriend calmly and without acting harshly or talking too loud or cussing and such. This only aggravates and intensifies your own reactions to his reactions. (Chain Reaction)Be sure to let him know how much you care about him and that you aren't sure why you are doing all this crying and moaning about things. REMEMBER HON THAT YOU ARE HUMAN AND NOT PERFECT....DON'T STRESS OVER THAT. Just do your best to figure out why you feel this way and get help for fixing the problem.
Spend time working on you. Focus on getting the help you need, whether you need med, therapy...OR just plain MIDOL and MORE SLEEP...PMS will cause you to have outburst like this also.You are correct that little things shouldn't be such a disturbing factor, so always think hard on these things BEFORE YOU BLURT SOMETHING OUT THAT YOU WILL REGRET! Hindsight is 20/20 but if you are careful with what you say to him you will still most likely get good results.
I know about depression first hand and I have been thru the trials of raising a daughter and was the baby sister of 8 4 which were girls. Anything is possible and even thyroid troubles can cause depression along with weight loss or gain. My daughter had that trouble and so did I. Seek help from a trained professional and soon you will be back to your sweet, wonderful, fun-loving self.......which I am thinking your boyfriend already knows you are! *-)
I hope this helps and MAY THE ANGELS WATCH OVER YOU AND PLACE THEIR HANDS OF TENDERNESS UPON YOUR LIPS ......BEFORE YOU BLURT OUT ANOTHER HARSH WORD TO THE ONES YOU LOVE.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, will clean my room as I know what you mean. It does help if you're in a clean environment. I've got quite a lot of clutter! Thanks very much. X
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (26 February 2009):
 i can relate on this at the moment as i am the same i think its due to stress worry and borderline depression. you need to sort your life out. got a dirty bedroom ? clean it out! simple things as a messy life style at home can be something that can add to make you more sad. ass the other reader said sort your life out go with friends out to the cinema or something go for walks. fate shall bring you back to your right path but you have to do your bit too!!! good luck aphex
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, Its a working progress I guess! Will keep you updated. X
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 February 2009):
Go and see your doctor to talk about if you need some drugs to help you. Eat well and try to force yourself out of bed to go swimming or do some kind of exercise.
See your boyfriend a bit less and just MAKE yourself go out with your friends or go for a run with the dog.
This does sound just like depression so you have to get it dealt with.
Good Luck!! xx
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