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writes:I have a moral issue I need help dealing with. The story begins with my current wife. We met in massage therapy school, you could say we were really "hands on" in class, and started dating early in the first semester of school. Before we were official, she introduced me to her sisters, and man were they attractive. I mean holy crap, I'm attracted to my wife, but she doesn't quite pull off "sexy" like her sisters. My main moral issue is with her sister that's my age, Emma. Emma has the body of a goddess; a perfect pair of girls, a slim waist, nice thighs with a big booty, and GORGEOUS hazel eyes with s smile that'll steal your breath. I felt so guilty for feeling what I did, and still do. I have committed my life to my wife, I love her very dearly, but this attraction that I've had for her sister Emma from the first day I met her hasn't gone away as I hoped. I thought maybe I'll just get used to her, see her as a sister, but I think this is just something natural. To make things worse, in the early stages of our relationship, when we weren't official, her sister inquired about me and asked if we were dating. I was making plans to talk to her, seeing as how attracted I was to her, but I ended up having sexual relations with my wife the first time soon after meeting her sister. That pretty much closed that door. In the next two months, we dated and accidentky got pregnant. Now, my wife being extremely close with her sister Emma, we would always hangout just the three of us. Since my wife was pregnant, many many times it was just Emma and I sharing a drink, getting close, and I realized Emma and I had a lot more in common than I share with my wife. We shared the same views, have a similar sense of humor, we just clicked. With my wife, it was pretty forced. We argue so much, but that's because we're really stubborn on our different views. I just can't help but always think, what could have been if I had met her sister first? It turns out my wife, Emma and I all attended the same middle school and high school, we just didn't know each other. I know all their friends, they know of all mine, but our paths never crossed. I can't shake the feeling that I met the wrong sister first. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2015): To be honest, I have a feeling this is less to do with you and her having more in common and more to do with you fancying her much more.For example the conversation probably goes something like this you- I really like potatoes (obviously you wouldn't be talking about potatoes but please understand the concept)Emma- They're alrightYou *think* Oh my gosh we both really like potatoes. Just because you are more sexually attracted to her you are likely to see into things more and draw similarities when there are little or none to begin with, I've been there. Anyway my point is you're thinking with your wrong head, and I think you should stop hanging out with her separately as all it seems to do is make you de-value your wife by comparing them the whole time and doing her down because she's not as sexually attractive to you.Please take some time away from Emma and focus on your wife, for at least four months, if you still find that you have nothing to talk about or really don't get on. Then do seek councelling, and after that maybe think of separation, but you can't get with her sister even if you separate so you can get that insane idea out of your head.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (13 November 2015):
Perhaps you would have been better off with Emma but you've already made your choice. It would be unfair, cruel and selfish to act on this as it would break the sisters and their family apart. Just letting your wife know about this could very well end the relationship between your wife and Emma.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2015): You are highly unlikely to get the outcome you desire here- no decent sister would entertain what you are thinking of, and it would blow their family apart. You don't seem at all happy with your wife- you are quite scathing of her actually.....you need to think if you should work on that relationship or end it, that's where your focus should be, not lusting after something that will never happen or will create merry hell if it does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2015): Marry who you love but above all, love who you married! Focus on your relationship! Stop thinking about her sister.
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