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*eddykitty24
writes:I am a 25 year old female, who has never experienced orgasm. Have had sex enough times, to feel 'unable' to orgasm. Have tried many different stimulations, and am relaxed. Currently taking Alesse birth control pill, and have been since 15. I do reach climax sometimes, but then it always fades away. Is something wrong with me?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 February 2008):
 Most women have orgasms through the manual or oral stimulations of the clitoris. This is the usual way.
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reader, CorpusDei  +, writes (4 February 2008):
 First off, there's nothing wrong with you. Being unable to reach orgasm (especially orgasm through intercourse) is a very common complaint with women, although the chances of an orgasm increase the closer you get to your 30's. One of the first things to ask is if you're able to reach an orgasm by yourself while masturbating. If you are able to, then the mechanisms are there. Best recommendation in that situation would be to work with your partner to figure out the best way to get you there. Oral sex before intercourse helps a lot of women achieve an orgasm before intercourse starts, and once the first one is there, the rest will likely follow (And I'm not talking about one or two minutes, have your partner take their time and let you relax and enjoy yourself)
The other possibility is that you need to figure out what makes you tick first, before you can expect your partner to get you off. Spend some time masturbating, start learning what you do mentally to get to that point and use that to help achieve an orgasm with your partner involved.
If you're unable to reach orgasm by yourself or with the assistance of a talented tongue, then unfortunately, it could be possible that you're just unable to. Again, this is a common complaint with women in your age range, and I can only suggest that it's very likely to improve as you get a little older. Another very likely cause is the pill you're taking. Talk to your doctor about changing it to find something that doesn't interfere as much with your sex life.
Good luck, and much hope for you. If the world had more good orgasms, I think it'd be a much happier place.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (4 February 2008):
 nope. sadly you're one of many women who struggle to achieve orgasm.
do a google search on the G-spot. other than that maybe contact a sex counclier?
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