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30-35,
*l Dente
writes:Hi guys,got a question for y'all...Theres a girl who i fancy, I did fancy her before but then she got a boyfriend and I ended up with someone else but that didnt last very long. She split up with her bf about 3 weeks ago because he was too clingy and he really annoyed her. Since my gf broke up with me, I have become increasingly attracted to this girl again and we really get on REALLY well. I just scared that I'll overdo it and end up in the friend zone which I've heard all sorts of horror stories about. She speaks to me about everything and the other day she decided that she needed to tell me about a boy that she fancies (again) who broke up with her ages ago and really hurt her, (he is one of my good friends). I offered to find out what he thought of her for her and he said he would never go out with her again. I comforted her (this was all over msn) and then I found out that I was the only person to find out about this boy. She said she didnt know why she bothered with him and was really upset and angry with him. she said all boys were stupid Bas****s. and then added 'except you'.Does this mean I'm in the friend zone? and if I'm heading in that direction is there any way I can avoid it?Thanks, El Dente
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): personally i dont think thats too deep into the friend zone but thats my opinion. For some girls the friend zone is a good thing because then you know each other well (and you can buy her nice presents for her birthday and valentines). I suppose if you did want to say anything valentines day would be perfect ;). Even if you do get into the friend zone then you wilmight even have a chance in later years. If she doesn't already in time she will realise how good a friend you have been. I wouldn't avoid it but in the end you know best-you've just got to think about it.
good luck and hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): Yes I can see what you meen you may be in the Friend zone but that is not such a bad thing. Sooner or later she will realise what a good "friend" you are. Whatever you do don't push it she may see you as more than a friend. You could try to tell her about your feeling merhaps not in a direct way (don't blurt it out she might think you are a bit wierd!) Don't worry about it. There was a boy in my class who I fancied and he just saw me as a mate he did the same kinda thing, asking advise and even asking me to help him to get another girl to go out with him. Its hard and a bit annoying but things will change.
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