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30-35,
anonymous
writes:ok, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 4 months now. ive always been really shy and one of those people who needs to warm up to people before actually being comfortable and myself around them. the thing is, usually after 4 months, im comfortable, but with my boyfriend, im still almost as bad as i was day 1. sometimes i cant even look him in the eye. im just so self conscious about looking stupid and it causes me to push him away alot and keeps me from showing love and compassion and it makes him feel insecure and like im insensitive. hes really bothered by it that i cant open up and be comfortable around him. what do i do!? i needa get over this
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reader, VikkiDec1 +, writes (25 August 2010):
 I think your focusing so much on getting over this, and your not relaxing and giving it time. Everyone warms up in their own time and this is normal. If you two like eachother, just tell him how you need some time and ask if he can be patient with you. He will understand and make sure to let him know you like him. Do you honestly like spending time with him? Do you see yourself being 100% open with him? And is your life better with him in it? You should ask yourself all these questions too.
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