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writes:Dear CupidI am with my bf for 2 years. I never really introduced me to his friends as gf. For them i was just his friend, he is not cheating on me, so i never really raised any issues on it.He never really talked about our future. Yesterday he added his profile in a dating site and sent me his profile id and asked me to check it out. I was devastated, when i asked him y he did that, he said he never felt like marrying me since there is no spark.I know i should leave him, he wants me to hang with him till he gets someone. I really wanted to leave him, but i dont have any friends, i am an introvert and i hate myself for still wishing that he might realize how much i love him and would love me back.I know it sounds stupid, but still i couldnt make myself leave him. Please please help me, i dont even know what i want now.
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reader, sparklypurplegirrafes  +, writes (13 December 2011):
OKay sweetheart seems here the truth of the matter is your scared to be alone because your apparently an "introvert" Listen even if you dont have any friends or whatever that does not mean you should be with this horrible excuse for a man. If he is saying theres been no spark and he was never going to marry you that shoulda been the very moment u told him to go fuck himself especially when he said he wants you to stay with him until he finds someone thats clearly only because he knows he can "get some" from you. But only you are the one who can make the decision i say drop his sorry ass you can find someone wayy better who loves you.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 December 2011):
 Only person who can change this situations is YOU. Stop being a doormat and leave his sorry ass.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 Hiyaaaaa,Introverts! Nothing wrong with being an introvert! You just gotta find some introvert friends!I know you know that you should leave him so I'm not gonna bang on about it even though YOU SHOULD!!!!Honestly I think you deserve better than that because what kinda guy says "hey I'm not gonna marry you but want you around because I'm a little bit lonely and when I find someone gonna leave you" - NO NO GUYS SAY THAT! Well true gentleman will never say that.You need to peel yourself alway from him try to cut down the amount of time you're with him, like if he phones don't pick up the phone all the time so you can switch off your phone, remember that he is using you so that can make you not want him more.A great song I got to give you honestly I think you'll like the song because its amazing! Its called "Till I Forget About You" by Big Time Rush! I know typical boy band thingy nowadays but really good song otherwise! Please check it out and it will make you realise you have got a lot more!Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 You know you have to leave him. Am sure he knows that you love him, but that is not going to make him stay. He knows you love him so he is going to use you until he finds someone who he is actually interested in. He does not love you, he does not want to be with you, he is just using you, and when he leaves for someone else he will wonder why you are upset about it because he has already been honest with you and told you he wants to look for someone else because he just does not want to be with you. Tell him it is over. Have some self respect for yourself.
If you have no friends and you feel lonely well that is understandable, but this shows him that he can just use you, and you are willing to let him. It shows you have no self respect for yourself and that you are desperate. Go out and make some friends. Join some clubs, get new hobbies. Talk to new people and get yourself busy. You need to put yourself out there and make yourself some friends, you need to work hard and go and look for them because they are not going to come to you.
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