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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now. We've gotten to fingering/handjobs, but I have a problem. I haven't ever given handjobs before, and I seem to be really bad at it because I can't get him to come. He can always get me, and I'm starting to get really frustrated by not being able to get him. Does anyone have any tips for how I can improve?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Aww i feel for you. But it sounds like you are trying too hard, you need to relax. The more your relax and enjoy giving him pleasure the more he will enjoy recieving it.
Have more foreplay before you start on the penis. Kiss him let him play with your breasts, let him a have a lot of visual.
Try a mixture of hand and blowjob that really gets my b/f going.
Start by sucking the head of the penis slowly, and work to the shaft, play with his balls whilst sucking! put your breasts around his penis and rub it in between them!
Another thing is he mite be looking forward to full penetration so why dont you deep throat him, let his penis go all the way in your mouth and out a few times then when you see that he is extremely enjoying it hand job it.
Does he play with himself infront of you?? why dont you watch him see where he touches how he likes it what really gets him going, this is what i did when i was inexperienced!!
Anyway hope this helps!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 January 2010):
Ask him what he likes. That's the best thing to do.
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reader, SeXylOvE12 +, writes (26 January 2010):
 Have you tried using a lubricant of any kind? That would really help. If you're planning on sticking to hand jobs lotion is fine, but for oral I'd buy a flavored lubricant.
Ask your bf what he likes. Don't be shy! You do want to get him to orgasm, so it'd be worth it!
The biggest mistake girls make when giving hand jobs is not applying enough pressure. Grip his shaft firmly (using lube) and move your hand up and down.
The underside of the head and the bottom of the penis is the most sensitive part so play around there.
The skin connecting his balls to the underside of him is super sensitive as well.
Change it up. My bf loves it when i start at the bottom and swirl my hand upwards (twist my wrist) as i move up and down his shaft.
Start off slowly and work up speed. It sounds like your guy takes a while to cum (which could be beneficial to you in the future!) The longer that he takes the orgasm the better it will be for him.
If you have anymore questions about hand-jobs, oral sex, or regular sex feel free to personal message me :) I'm happy to help
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