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16-17,
anonymous
writes:Heyi usely have sex with my grilriend about four times a week, on two seperate days. im really attracted to her and her body arrouses me but i can't get/keep an errection. we do foreplay and is fun for her but not so much for me as:1. its quite embarassing im not hard2. im not hard so it doesnt feel as goodi don't really masturbate and i dont drink or do drugs.any ideas? =[
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reader, Kimaxsi  +, writes (4 May 2008):
In your age group its often psychological so need to worry.Stress is a big factor. Have a lot of things been occupying your thoughts lately? School? Problems with family or friends? Etc? Even positive things going on that have been on your mind can have a bit distracted for a bit.Performance anxiety. Did something happen or did you suddenly start to wonder about your sexual performance? Have you been putting pressure on yourself to do it a certain amount each week b/c your friends do or because that's what you think your girlfriend wants?Have you been comparing yourself to your friends lately? Or the stereotypes that teenage boys are horny all the time? Also body image, how is your self-esteem and confidence levels? Has your body changed lately, in ways that have made you more self-conscious when you're in the buff? Has your girlfriend may be said somethings to make you self-conscious?I know you don't do drugs but do you take any medications or have any health problems?Do you smoke? Do you eat pretty well exercise/play sports take pretty good care of yourself? Its great that you don't drink or do drugs XDDDDInterest in sex naturally waxes and wanes, it doesn't mean you don't like sex or that you've lost interest in your girlfriend it may just be time to do other things for a while you know? Then you can get back to it with enthusiasm when you're ready. People even take brings from things they love.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (4 May 2008):
Do not worry too much about it. You are still young and your body is still changing.
The other thing to consider is that a man can only come so many times in a short number of days (it varies with each man, but there is a limit) before the body needs to recharge itself. So if that is the case, try waiting a week or so before having sex again. You may find the problem fixes itself.
The other thing is to not worry as that can contribute to the softness as well.
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