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writes:I never seem to find a single guy to date because in the past the only guys that fancy me are divorced, engaged, married or in some sort of relationship. And they are all older than me a fair bit. I have no clue why this is. I don't want to be with losers who i know will treat me badly, the other reason i can't get into any sort of relationship with them is because I know they are seeing soemone else and I don't want to intentionally go out to wreck someone's marriage/relationship. But there is always soemthing i find attarctive about bad-boys even tho i know i shouldnt go there.i have found it really hard to get over my ex so is this the reason y i can't move on and attract single guys?
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (8 May 2007):
I think you need to ask yourself why you even need to be in a relationship.
Why not just be single for a little while and explore the fun side of being single, namely the independence that comes without having to worry about some guy's feelings. Get together a group of good girl friends and live it up. Tease the guys at the bars and the clubs into a frenzy and then leave them all behind when you go home.
And talk to guys. Make friends with them. Learn the value of platonic relationships with good men, who want to be your friend, protect you, and who value you for who you are. Most of those older men only see you as a sexual object, to desire, to use, and then to discard. Not all men are like this, however, if you insist on putting dating before friendship, you're only likely to meet such men who want to skip the whole friends thing and jump right into bed. For them, being a friend to a hot girl is too much work for an uncertain reward...
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 How long ago was it from your previous relationship that you are finding so difficult to get over?
And what were the circumstances of the break-up?
No-one can blame you for finding these "bad-boys" attractive, as there will always be an element of danger and surprise with these kind of people, the knowledge of danger and mystery is a massive turn-on for most people, but it important that you hold back on these temptations.
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