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*ovelyeyes
writes:I have a Huge crush on my hb brother. I don't know what it is about him he just makes me go crazy. We don't flirt much,but we always catch eachother staring @ eachother. I don't want to have an affair w/him because I'm against it. I can't help my feelings I don't know what to do. I've tried avoiding seeing him for a while but as soon as I see him it all comes back. I haven't made it noticeable @ all but now I dream about him all the time. I know he thinks I'm attractive he's told me that I'm gorgouse everytime we go out and I'm dressed up. I want to know how do I stop my feelings for him. I'm pretty much stuck seeing this guy forever. Btw my hb and his brother r close and hang out a lot. Please Help!
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reader, lovelyeyes +, writes (2 March 2011):
lovelyeyes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have been trying to avoid him. This has been going on for 4 yrs now. It just kinda happened out of no where. My hb and his brother are very close so they always hangout. I can't tell my hb not to bring him over cause he's gonna ask why. Btw he loves dogs so I can't picture him kicking a puppy dog. I realy would like to thankyou all for your time. I also wanted to add I don't want anything to happen between us,I don't want to cheat on my hb,but I can't control this I've tried. The more I fight it the more I end up wanting him.
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reader, Nonamus +, writes (2 March 2011):
You need to think about any bad habits he has or things you don't like about him. Make something up if you have to. He kicks puppy dogs. He probably snores and farts too much. I know it's hard. He is probably a lot like your husband; you may have been with him if you me him first. Good luck.
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reader, free advice  +, writes (1 March 2011):
There are a lot of guys who wants their SIL but they can't as they are sure that it won't end up well because most of the SILs will not give a positive response. If you have a good married life, continue with that. If you do not want an affair with him, then what you are up to? However, if you are sexually attracted with him and vice-versa that you are unable or don't want to express, talk it over privately and see if you can work something out to quench it. Maybe this will help to ease up tensions a bit for both of you. Make sure your hus don't even have a minute hint on this. Let them remain close and hang out as usual. Do this only if you are pretty sure that your BL keeps this matter between you and him alone. You can't trust someone for sure in keeping such things secret, so be careful before you decide.
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reader, TEM +, writes (1 March 2011):
 You know you are playing with fire, right? If you take up with your brother-in-law you will lose your marriage and the respect of your family. You may end up completely alone. Think about that the next time your eyes meet.
If the brother-in-law is instigating much of this you must tell him to knock it off. What kind of a man would do this to his own brother? You might want to ask yourself that as well.
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