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*oey Heart Broken
writes:Hey my name is Joey, im almost 15 and still in high school (10th year) and i have a problem..Too understand my problem im gonna have to explain the whole story:Ive been in love with this Girl for over a year now, but at the start she had a boyfriend who she'd been going out with for a year. we were extremely close friends and after a while i told her i love her and she told me she loved me too, but unfortunatly she also loved her boyfriend. we had an affair for about a month and then i asked her to choose between me and her boyfriend. she chose him.this kept happening over a period of about 7 months. affairs and then choosing him again. because she loved him more.eventually though when he found out he broke up with her because he said he couldnt trust her anymore. after another month we started to go out and everything seemed fine, tho she was still getting over her ex. 2 months into going out her ex wanted ehr to leave me for him, and i was so sure she was going to leave me and choose him again, but she didnt, she said she loves me and doesnt want to go out with him ever again. so then he asked her for an affair at the least but she said no because she loves me more.we've been going out almost 4 months now and shes still friends with him but only meets up with him about once a week. i dont like her seeing him because i feel hes gonna try make her cheat on me again. and I cant ask her not to see him cause that will make me sound like a jerk. What do I do???? :'(Extra details: (incase its important)Im 15shes 15her ex is 19they lost their virginities to each other and i lost mine to her when we actually started going out.
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reader, Joey Heart Broken +, writes (2 February 2011):
Joey Heart Broken is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both of you.. I have alot of thinking to do. :/
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reader, SoccerJosh  +, writes (2 February 2011):
xkatx pretty much nailed it dude ... to be honest, I think shes cheating on you if they hang out once a week and they've done stuff in the past ... but you'll never know until you confront her about it ... If she lies, then you should be able to tell by looking at her body language.
But here's the bottom line, she was in a relationship when you both had an affair, therefore she cheated on her boyfriend with you. Then she was with you and she cheated on you with her ex ... Therefore cheating twice. If she's already cheated twice and both of the guys keep coming back to her, she will never learn her lesson and shes doomed to cheat again but this time with someone else ...
You have to confront her about it and regardless of what she says, you have to be able to read her body language. If you don't know if shes cheating on you or not then its best to just end the relationship ... its not worth the headaches man ... gl
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reader, xkatx +, writes (2 February 2011):
 You obviously cant seem to trust this girl, She cheated on him with you while she was with him, and she still talks to him and hangs out with him, how do you know shes not doing what she did with you while her and her ex were dating? My best advise here, is to maybe just talk to her about it, confront her, but theres no telling if she will tell the truth or not, honestly itdoesnt seem like shes very loyal and trust worthy, you have to think to yourself, do you really want to be in this relationship and always worry about what shes doing with him? Is it worth getting hurt? Whats a real relationship without trust? You need to have trust in order to have a good and a strong relationship. She doesnt really seem like a trusting person, take it from someone whos been there. IVe been cheated on alot, and i cant have a relationship without trust, it just never works out. I would consider about maybe trying to open your eyes and experiance what else is out there, meet new people maybe, there are other girls out there who are actually really trust worthy and are ready for a good relationship like you are.I understand shes been in your life for awhile, but this relationshipdoesnt sound like its going to get mch further, im sorry its probably not what you wanna hear, but there are other people out there for you if you gave the time to see it. Open your eyes and dont be afraid to move on for something better.
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