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writes:Im 26 I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months. I love him to death and don't know what I would do without him. He has 2 kids aged 6 and 10 from a previous relationship who live with him full time. I bought my own house last year and would describe myself as quite independent.My boyfriend and I have talked about a future together and I have a feeling he is going to ask me yo move in with him soon. I love him and although they are nice enough kids I really don't think I could handle taking on 2 kids. I don't lone what to do, I don't want to hive up my freedom but I font want to lose him Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Kids are a huge part of a relationship, like it or not. If you aren't cool with the kids, it will ultimately affect your relationship...no matter how much you love him. Take your time and make sure you can do it. Being a step-parent is so much harder than it sounds.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (5 December 2010):
 I agree, it's only been 9 months so you have lots of time to see how you feel in the near future. Don't let him pressure you, I think there has to be a lot more discussion about how the kids will integrate with you before you even think about moving in. For your sake and the kids sake, if it's going to happen, it has to be done right, so there is no point making a rush of things.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
AE xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Stay as you are for now. Keep your independence. There is no rush. Let the relationship develop and take your time. It would be sad if you were to enter the children's life only to leave. So don't feel you have to move in yet. And be totally sure it is what you want when you do.
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