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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been married for 4 year and we have a 2 year old son together. Our relationship has been rocky for a long time. My wife is a good person albeit cold a distant sometimes. Throughout our relationship I have often felt alone and longing for more.In the last year our differences have become apparent. We never see eye to eye, constantly bicker and grow further apart. We tried counseling and even a trial separation. We always wind up back together and in the same place.At this point in our relationship I can honestly say the distance is my fault.In the last few months the longing for something more has become overwhelming and my growing discontent more apparent. She has actually tried to make things better and has worked on making changes to help our relationship. It just isn’t coming back for me. I feel like something was lost between us, and the "love" and companionship is gone. I have a strong sense of obligation to both her and our son. The thought of divorce is sad and terrifying. At this point I just don’t know what to do. I don’t feel the desire or willingness to fix the relationship but I don’t know if leaving is the right choice either.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 November 2009):
Don't give up yet. She's trying, which means she loves you and doens't want to lose you. Focus on that. All right, it's gone wrong. But try the counselling again. It won't be quick to fix, but it sounds like it could be if you both really work hard. Is there anyone who could look after your child for a few days while you two just talk?
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