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writes:My friend broke up with her boyfriend almost a year ago and it was for a good reason, a really understandable reason.. but now, she won't stop thinking about him and wanting him back. I have told her time and time again to stop going after him.He treated her like rubbish and used her. I don't want her to get hurt again. I have told her that he is not worth it.He's going out with other girls now, he is over my friend, but she's not over him. and It's getting annoying to be honest, i want her to shut up about it and accept that he is not going to take her back. And she complains that he never texts her back and he never replies to her emails.. and that's because he doesn't want anything to do with her anymore, he's with someone he wants to be with and wants to forget about his past with her.I know i'm not really asking for any advice, i just needed to get this off my chest, i need to get alot of my chest but, If anyone has any sugestions to how and what i can tell her so she will stop making herself hurt.Thanks :)S-J xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thankyou for your advice.She hasnt been seeing anyone new and hasnt had a boyfriend. I have told her that she needs to do this because it will make her feel better. I have advised lots of things to her, but she won't do any of it. Whenever he walks past she will stare at him and not take any interest into what i am saying. I turn her away from him but she keeps turning back.All she says is she wants to be friends again with him, but to rebuild the friendship, it's going to take some time, but she doesnt want to wait that time. And she does want him back but she won't let herself know that they never will be together again. He is with someone who's better for him and she needs someone better than him, he treated her like dirt.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 November 2009):
Well you could try to get her socliazing a bit more with other guys, but you seem to have tried everything. At the end of it, girls to like a bad boy. Be a really good friend and be ready with the box of tissues. She will no doubt get hurt again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): I think that's really, really sad. It seems to be the dirtbags that have this effect on women.
I don't think there's anything you can do though, if you tried and tried and she's just not listening. What are you supposed to do? You want to be her friend but I can understand how it must be getting old for you.
Has she seen anyone new or started dating? Maybe meeting some new guys will take her mind off him. Can you take her somewhere you can meet guys and see if that gets her mind off him?
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