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writes:I'm a 45 yr old male christian virgin. The women I know just want to be friends with me or they never want to be married and they just want a physical relationship. These are both christian and non christian women. I wanted to be married by now. I'm still searching. I certainly did not want to be a virgin at 45. I can't force a woman to marry me. I have no control of if or when that happens. I'm human and have sexual feelings that cannot be turned off like a light switch. Am I expected to abstain from sex for life? Is it unrealistic or outdated to wait until I'm married to have a sexual relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): You are not alone, I was you at 42. I'm 64 now and I have a lovely wife, I'm no longer a virgin, and we are both christian and in love. Love will find its way to you...trust in god and keep your spirits up. Don't make a descision you'll regret, but do put yourself out there, and try hard to show other women how good of a good person you are. Tust in god and that's all you'll need to do. If you still can't find love, remember god has a plan for you. Keep your head up and don't lose sight of the other good things in your life...My Best of Luck...I'll include you in my prayers tonight.
PS If you feel one of the women you know who wants a physical relationship is a good person, give her a chance to know you and maybe she'll change her mind.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (21 February 2010):
My advice is for you to Google Christian online dating sites and post a profile there. Do not state that you are a virgin, that's too much information! You can always reveal that when you meet someone and know them well enough. Also, Christian or not, women like men who are decisive and will pursue them. Don't sit around waiting for people to write to your profile. Be assertive and write to women too. At 45 you are at the perfect age for women wanting to settle down to start families so just go out there and meet them. Online there are plenty of women also thinking there aren't any men left.
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reader, Tess12  +, writes (21 February 2010):
I think you need to look at what is human and normal. You have sexual feelings, the same as everyone. If you cannot find a soul mate who you wish to marry, don't deny your own personal and normal feelings at the expense of your psychological health and happiness. You are human. My advice is to wait until you find the right person and then enjoy am adult sexual relationship with them. Just make sure you are both very clear in what you want and expect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2010): find a serious marriage or dating site
and write all things that your future spouse would want ot know about you..
and dont forget to pose some nice pics of you..
i think this well solve your problem my friend
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