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writes:There's this girl, who is very important to me. Every time I think of her I want to cry. I've known this girl since kindergarten. In the 3rd grade, she told me she liked me for a friend, because that's the same year she found out I've had a crush on her since I met her. The thing is, I still do, but now, after a series of emotional events, I KNOW I love her. I'm IN love with her. But she has a boyfriend. We've been great friends, but I want, no, I NEED to tell her how I feel. I don't want her for myself or to make her mine. I just want to let her know, I'm a guy who is willing to dedicate himself to her, however he can. I cry on the inside trying to figure this out. I definitely don't know what to do since my friend, who went to school with her last year since I had to transfer, told me her boyfriend cheats on her. He is kind of an 'unreliable' source, but would he really lie about THAT. I can't figure any of this out. I'm in love and I'm willing to completely change my image, my personality, who I am for the better, just because of this one beautiful girl. I can't lose her...I just can't...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): Ooohhh, yeah...you got a bad case, alright, young friend. You are in the terminal phase. Hey, listen to an old uncle, alright? Just for a minute? You have lots of minutes. First, I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. We have all been there, young friend. Every single one of us "dudes" who love women. You think no-one can understand. You are very wrong. I can give you condescending phrases about how it will all pass away and how you will have crushes on other girls later, but that will not help you now. I know that. OK, you are not in the same school, now, right? That is rough. But, you can be in contact. You can write to her. And believe me, that is better than email for this kind of thing. First, start off with just about yourself and how your school now is different, what you think about it, etc. Add some funny stuff about what you remember from the "old school". Ask about other people, old friends. Then end up with, "I just wanted to keep in touch. I wanted you to know how much I miss everybody,...and you. And tell everyone 'hi' for me, OK?". That is a good "starter letter", anon...(wink). Don't make any silly statements. Wait a while for her reply. I am betting you will get one. After that, you can go to the email thing, maybe. But, don't rush it. Let her think and digest it. Ok, after this, you are on your own, kiddo. Just be cool. Use your best judgement. You can blow it or she may just write you off. But, at least you tried something. You would hate yourself if you never tried. If it doesn't work out, remember what I said,...girls are endless. They are pretty much forever, so always keep your right eye open...(wink).
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reader, Elliiott  +, writes (2 August 2009):
 Ok, Well, If her boyfriend does cheat on her, Maybe you could prove that && win her love that way, But be careful,
Even so, She might still be crazy in love with him, I guess you need to tell her how you feel, Since Kindergarten ..
Then it's up to her to decide, Like the user above said, You've just got to tell her, Tell her how you feel !
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): Look i have been thru this and the way to get her is Tell her how you feel and then let her go ! but you must tell her , a letter or email is best.and end it with "im always there for you"this has always worked for me and they come to you when they see you are the best after the ex is gone..just say it and make it sweet and not desperate..dont say stupid things like " im going to kill myself"..that will make you loook like a loser..make it sweet and then dont call,msg,or contact her..and then move on with your life and wait ! oh and when she comes to you one day make sure you treat her like a queen. have faith also ! bye
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