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writes:Im really sick of being single. And Im shy and never been good around men. I dont wanna ask them out and then have them have a girlfreind or soemthign. It makes me really normal. what do you think that I should do
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): I am shy too, so I know how difficult it can be to approach someone you may be interested in getting to know. But nothing will change if you keep doing what you are doing. If we want things to change, we have to change what we are doing. So as scary as it sounds, I think you should try and build up the courage to go for it, and approach guys you like. It will be terrifying at first! But it will feel more normal after a while. If they have a girlfriend, okay. No big deal. At least you'll know. No harm in trying. But maybe they won't have a girlfriend...You just don't know. Just remember to try and not take any rejections personally. If someone is not available, or not interested, it is not the end of the world, or a bad reflection of you. It's just one of those things, and we all experience it. So my advice is, as hard as it may be...try! Be brave and see what happens! You have my support!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Hopefully what I'm about to say will put you at ease.
If you had a friend who told you that she was finding it impossible to buy shoes or find any good shoes to take home, wouldn't you laugh if you realize that she was shopping at a candy store for them?
There are three words to think about when looking for a guy. Location, location, location. Find a good friend (or two) and hit places (Ricemonster came up with some good ones!). Find a couple of girlfriends to be wingmen (wingwomen!).
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reader, Ricemonster  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Try a reputable online dating site, speed dating venue, going to larger gatherings with your friends, clubs (as in an event, not the place for dancing/drinking), or try some liquid courage. ^_^
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