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writes:I've been with my Asian boyfriend for 3 years, in that 3 years he was made to get married by his dad. I've got 1 child to him and another to another man but he has brought her up as his own, now I am pregnant to him again an he's said he wants me to get rid of it, if I don't then he does not want anything to do with me. He has not called me for aweek since I said I want to keep the baby. Please help, I don't know what to do, I'm happy I am having a baby. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (20 August 2007):
 tell him to go away, it is good he has raied the other child as he own but his own flesh and blood is insane.
just let it be, you, your daughter and your baby
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy boyfriend does not want the baby cos he said it was not planned an he said if i do keep it then he will come an see the other childern but he will not bond with it or love it an that i am evil for keeping it an there for the child will be evil his friend called me an said i should think about him for once an that he had not had eney kids with his wife for me an his family are acking why he has not had eney kids yet an he does not want it so get rid of it he only comes an sees us once a week for 9 hours he never sleeps over we never go eney where just in the house ive moved too a diffent town for him where i dont knoe eney one just so he does not get seen by eney body what the hell do i do someone please give me sum good advise
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (20 August 2007):
 Get rid hun. What a bastard. He has no respect for you what so ever. If you wanna keep the baby, keep the baby, it's your body that is affected. Not his.
There are two people who create a baby. It's not only one person's choice what you do with a pregnancy.
I think you'll be soo much happier if you keep the baby and tell him to f*ck off. While your pregnant, have your friends to support you. You don't need a man to be happy.
Take care xx
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reader, love-him +, writes (20 August 2007):
 that is what my dad said to my mum, when she had me at 15 and became pregnant with my brother 10 yrs later.. It is your choice, if you wish to stay with this man and lose a baby, then do it. If you wont be pushed around and wish to keep the baby inside you, dont have an abortion. I hope i helped. Mail me if you would like to talk x
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (20 August 2007):
Yeah, it isn't his choice alone. Abortion is bad for the body anyway. He shouldn't have married just because his dad said so, but Asian culture dictates that one respects parents' decisions. Does he truly love you? Does he love the kids?
But what reasons does he have to not want the baby? He already has been taking care of two, is he afraid of the financial responsibility of another mouth to feed? Is he stressed out enough with the two kids? He might just be freaking out wondering how he'll be able to do it all, but at the same time, he knew the risks of sex.
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (19 August 2007):
 THEN YOU KEEP THE BABY!!!!!! SCREW HIM! any "man" who does that is not a man, not a man at all. Congrads on having a baby :) never let any weasle black mail you like that. Never.
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reader, gandalf +, writes (19 August 2007):
i think you should keep it and sod him . It sounds like if he loved he wouldnt dare ask such demands of you. I also ask how he thinks hes gonna have nothing more to do with you entirely- you've already got one child together or is he gonna run from responsibilities?Expecting you to murder an unborn child is not the actions of someone who loves you.
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