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writes:so i sat down tonight and started thinking..what am i gonna do with the rest of my life? and all i came up with was-i dont want to go to school the rest of my days and go to college and learn to do something i dont even want to do but at the same time..my boyfriend doesnt want to have kids so i highly doubt im ever gonna be a mommy..growing up my dream has always been o be a wonderful wife and mother...well...thats probably not gonna happen..im in desperate need of direction and need help..im starting to worry that i might need psychological help but im not sure if this is normal or what.. is this normal for someone my age? am i just over-reacting? can anyone give me any advice here? if so i thank you in advance..cuz im pretty much an emotional rollercoaster at this current point in time..thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): I understand where you're coming from a few years ago when I was 17 I had a time when I wondered where the hell my life was heading. I opted not to do uni after getting my exams because I had family stuff going on and worried I would regret not going and I hated the job I had started. This went on for a few months and I was like yourself-a constant emotional rollercoster! I realised myself that I had the power to do what I wanted and it was within me to create my own paths for the future I desired.I see your age as 16-17 and if your boyfriend is a similar age then the last thing on his mind is going to be children. I wouldn't worry too much about this now, if you love him and he loves you then you've got something special. Enjoy love at your age, I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17 and i'm 20 now and we're still together. Up until recently he wouldn't bring up the topic of kids! We both know now that when we are older of course we'll have kids but at the moment I am enjoying the life I am creating.Try to have more to aspire to than being a mum. Are there places you would love to go and see? Paris? Egypt? Get a job and work hard to save to visit these places then you'll have more zest for life. Or are there things you would love to become; hairdresser? teacher? Here in the UK you dont always have to study to do the things you love, you can be taught on the job and it doesn't count any less.In time you will achieve the dream of being a mum but for the moment create a life you love living.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): I understand where you're coming from a few years ago when I was 17 I had a time when I wondered where the hell my life was heading. I opted not to do uni after getting my exams because I had family stuff going on and worried I would regret not going and I hated the job I had started. This went on for a few months and I was like yourself-a constant emotional rollercoster!
I realised myself that I had the power to do what I
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 December 2009):
At some point, everyone asks this of themselves. It's natural, when a lot is all going on or when we're nearing a change, to feel this way.
You sound like you need to spend some time just living for yourself. Your boyfriend clearly isn't the guy for you if he doesn't want kids and you do. You'll only resent him in the future if you don't have kids and want them. I think you would do better to just focus on your own life. Do you have a dream job that you aspire for? Do you have a hobby that you love doing?
I'm the same. I didn't know where I was going when I was in school, sometimes I don't know where I'm going now. But I try to be happy for myself, and always have my dream in mind, and work for it.
You need to look at your own life and decide what YOU want. If you want to be a mum, this guy isn't for you. If you have a dream career, go for it. If you have a hobby you love doing, do it more. The world will be your oyster shortly, and you need to live it for yourself.
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