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I am lusting after my "brother-in-law" and am terrified he knows it! Any suggestions on what I should do?

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Question - (13 January 2006) 2 Answers - (Newest, 17 January 2007)
A female , anonymous writes:

I am lusting after my "brother-in-law" and am terrified he knows it.

I have been with my boyfriend for several years so I am a part of the family. I have been lusting after my boyfriend's brother for some time and am afraid he can see it. I am nervous around him and we are like the only two people at family functions who don't hug and talk. It's freaking me out!!!! The family is very close and fairly large so I am paranoid everyone knows how I feel and think I'm a moron!!! Has anyone ever been through this and how do you deal? I don't think he sees me in that way but I don't want him to know I see him my personal sex object. If he does know, how I pretend I don't lust after him??

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A male reader, dorfmeistersfan +, writes (17 January 2007):

dorfmeistersfan agony auntBefore, I respond, I would like to know how or what precipitated these feelings. Then I will provide professional advice.


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A male reader, Dazzerg United Kingdom +, writes (13 January 2006):

Dazzerg agony auntWell i would say that the chances are that nobody else knows. I would imagine you are feeling some guilt over this and that is the trigger for your fear that everybody knows. If you want to protend then the best option i would say is to try and surpress your feelings when he is around. Force yourself mentally to focus on something not to with him and not to do with sex. Some conversation would aid the pretence but physical contact is probably a bad idea though.

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