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writes: Dear cupid,if a husband has cheated on me more then once, will he do it again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): Absolutly!!! My husband started cheating in me right after our first daughter was born. It went on for three months and even after I got suspicious and confronted him and MY "FRIEND". It took him a year to finally admit it to me.I tried to leave and he tried to kill himself, swore he was dumb and would never do it again... Needless to say Ive been with his worthless ass for 4 years since and cannot even begin to count how many times the same thing has been repeated... It will never end! If they know they can do it once and get away with it, theyll keep doing it... In my case, I hate myself every day for staying, but I do. I just prepared myself for when it will happen again, hoping when it does, it wont hurt so much. There are circumstances like mine where a woman may have no choice but to stay. But if you have no ties yet... get out. I have 2 kids, a house, cars and all my finances are from him. I have no family and no friends to take me in... but I assure you, if I had... I would have already been gone. Dont spend any part of your life being unhappy. Find someone who will appreciate you and will be faithful. Those kind of men are a dying breed I know but they are out there. You just have to look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): I don't know what to say as I an looking for advise myself. Husband had an affair for 1 1/2 years & supposedly ended it but have a feeling the baby she is having with her now husband is my husband and also, How do I trust him again. A one night affair would be easier to deal with than a realationship with another person
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): Yes he will cheat on you again. The trust is gone and it will be hard for him to gain it back if you let him. You wont trust him even if he wont cheat again because you will always have that thought in the back of your head every time he goes out with out you, he will get annoyed with all the questions where are you goin who are you going to be with when are you comming back. He will think you are being nosey even though you have a right to ask if he cheated once. so it will just ruen the relationship all together. Even if he wont cheat again. Once you do it once the trust is gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): it's a comlicated situation. i've been with my husband for 4 years. we recently got married 4 months ago and after 2 miscarriages we have a beautiful baby girl. i foud out recently that he had a girlfriend on the side for abut 2 months now and the only thing i can think of is why didn't he have enough respect not to marry me in the first place. its not easy because i love him with all my heart and i thought he felt the same. it depends, if it was just some random chick it would be different. he told her he loved her and not me and told me the same. up until now i have been the perfect wife, caring for his needs before my own, giving him everything and every dime. well i play victim no more! i'm playing vindictive now. so when he comes to me next next week with his sobb story because we dont live together right now, i'll tell him that he's forgiven and he can quit his job and move in with me and then i'll bring my new lover in the picture. thats what makes me happy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): I am sorry to say that statistically speaking, yes he will cheat again. My husband has cheated on me twice. Once when we were dating (engaged, actually) and then again while we were married. We have children together and it is a very difficult situation. I do love him, but things will never be the same. My advice is for you to get out of the relationship ASAP if you do not have any ties at this point. You will never have peace of mind until you are out of this situation forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): I think he probably will..I recently found out my boyfriend of 1 yr was having a relationship with 2 other women..one for the entire length of our relationship the other for half of it. Both of the ladies dumped him..but I remain...and guess what? he has been calling one of the ladies and swearing to me that he hasn't...so yes your guy will cheat again..get out while the gettingis good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2006): Yes...mine did...and according to him he is the one suffering because I do not want to trust him...now that he changed....Maybe I'm not trusting him because I changed...although I really love him and want this to work it haunting me every day...and I hurt over and over again...
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (14 January 2006):
 Even if he doesn't, the pain that you have endured should tell you that you can't trust him again. So where do you go from here? To a new guy that appreciates what your giving him. Obviously, your husband doesn't have any respect for you if he did it more than once. You are the real question though! Why do you women put up with that crap. I love my wife with all my heart, but honestly if I'm not giving her what she needs and she didn't sit me down and discuss it. Then I hope the door doesn't hit her on her a$$ on her way OUT! One chance only! Statistically speaking though. Most people who have extra-marital affairs do cheat again. Maybe not for a long time; just someday. I don't ever want to know that I couldn't trust my wife again. I'd definately leave and find someone you can trust again; you'll sleep alot easier at night.
Sincerely
Ed
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2006): I hate to put my own down, but I can only say, move on girl. I know to many similar situations and they just won't stop, not for you or anyone. I wish I could tell you how to get him to keep it in his pants, but it won't work. Remember, there are great men out there waiting to meet someone who wants a true commitment.
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (14 January 2006):
 So he has cheated on yo more than once and you have been foriving him each time? I would say that he has no reason to stay faithful to you in that case, and his actions show he hasn't any remorse for what he has done.
So... yes, he probably will cheat again... and again, until you stand up and put your foot down, making it clear that enough is enough and you refuse to be treated this way.
You Take Care now, and sort this husband of yours out once and for all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2006): yes, yes, yes...no matter how guilty he feels after each time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2006): Some guys can change. But it's essential to have open, honest discussions with him to see if he might stray again.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (13 January 2006):
 I would say the odds tend to say yes. Sorry. Obviously there are serious underlying problems and his failure to communicate them to you is bad on his part. If you are serious about saving the relationship then you should prehaps confront him and try to get to the bottom of his behaviour.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Most likely.
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