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writes:Have anyone of you been in a long distance relationship? I'd like to hear some success stories!! I am meeting with my LDR next month for the first time. I have heard so many negative things about ldr's and it's making me slightly nerous. 'N' and myself speak online every night, make video calls too and speak on the phone atlest once a week (it woul d be more but as i am from the UK, and 'N' is from Canada, it gets expensive)We both have faith this relationship will work, we both love each other, So now i just can't wait to see what happens. My heart is racing and i have butterflys in my stomach already at just the thought of seeing him at the airport and huging him for the first time!! xx
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reader, daletom  +, writes (7 July 2010):
My true story: Although I dated (and loved) a girl during the summer after I finished High School she broke up when we were separated at different universities. I went through 4 years of college without a real date, much less a girlfriend. At spring break of my senior year, in the course of conversation with an adult acquaintance, I mentioned that "Girls just avoid me like the plague." and we discussed the situation briefly. Now this "adult acquaintance" was my parents' age. Her daughter was in my High School class; I had been in Scouts and church activities with one of her sons.
But she had a niece . . . Two months later, after college graduation, I had the niece's mail address, and the suggestion "You'd probably enjoy comparing your college experiences.".
Over the next 3 months we developed a LDR, but WITHOUT the aid of telephones or video calls. We WROTE to each other - real letters on real paper, sometimes a friendship card or a trinket gift - for three months. It turned out to be a wonderful way for two quiet and shy people to get acquainted. In August I finally met her in person.
There weren't any hugs at the airport, as I recall. (If there was, it was a very polite, perfunctory hug.) That night we had our first date - attending a (very inexpensive) performance of some Gershwin pieces by a community orchestra. As we neared the theater, she started to go in the wrong direction, so I took her hand . . . When I drove her back to her aunt's house (where she was staying just for the night) I decided to be rather bold, and try something I had never done - which is how I discovered that she kissed on the first date! And, I mean REALLY kissed! (Since then, we learned that was the only time either of us kissed on the first date.)
One year and two weeks after our first face-to-face meeting we were married, and still are. (I won't say how long that is, but our youngest kid is almost your age.) Every few years we send flowers to my wife's Aunt Laura on our anniversary, and thank her for introducing us.
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reader, confused1126  +, writes (1 July 2010):
i met my boyfriend online about 2 and a half years ago, it was weird though because i was friends with his fav cousin an he came up for holidays and stayed just down the road from me lol i had never seen him but he'd seen me about 5 years ago...?
anyways, after we started talking it was cool. we petty much knew everything about eachother before we met so when that time came we were comfortable around one another. 2 years on and we're still together :) its not easy at all, hardest thing is missing him.. best part is seeing eachother again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): oh yes i met my man on line we have been together for 1 year now i can only see him in the school holidays cause he has a child and i do so thats the times we meet which is not very often but we are commited to each other and since meeting him he has spoken to me on the msn every day and had a odd phone call cause i am not a good talker and he his not too but once we get chatting we are great he texts me every t break and dinner break he has and we will move into gether one day i have never looked back since meeting this man he his i believe my soul mate we finish of each other sentences we think the same a real true connection i feel he his like me in a mans body so i say to you go for it and enjoy yourself and if you got the butterflies feeling thats good i get that everytime i go and see my man i think LDR can work and do work but you have to be commited and know what you want from each other ie a future be honest and loyal and you wont go wrong...good luck
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reader, Chickb +, writes (25 June 2010):
Hi Hun,
i've been in a long distance relationship for 6 years but i'm in the uk& my boyfriend is in Italy.
I won't lie& say it's easy- what I struggled with the most was when we had to say goodbye- I hated it& in the 1st 2 years we saw eachother twice a year! That was difficult but now we see eachother more often.
U will get people saying it won't last or work out- alot of people said that to me& funnily enough still do! But 6 years proves we love eachother so there!
We still have that spark but it does wear out - seeing eachother is nice but saying goodbye is still hard.
Ironically my aunt met her husband in Canada & the same thing she'd go there & he'd come here etc... Now they married so it can work!
Good luck& I hope it all works out well for you!
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