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writes:I feel like there is something seriously wrong with me. I have been so shy, ever since I can remember. Even when I was a baby, I was very quiet, I barely cried or anything. And as I became a toddler and a kid, I was shy, never wanting to let go of my mum and always hiding behind her. I am still so shy to this very day at age 19, although I have become less shy over the years.My question is, why am I like this? Are some people just born shy? My sister is the complete opposite!!! She is sooo outgoing and loud. And right from when she was a baby, she was loud and always seekign attention, where as I was happy to be by myself and not get any. So many people put me down for being quiet and shy, which just makes me even more shy. It doesnt help at all. Also, the fact that ive been dumped because I was to shy aorund my bf's friends...that hurts too. I am just so lost...any advice?
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reader, holydiver1  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 im pretty shy myself and however weird it is i enjoy getting on a stage behind a band a playing a drum kit and for some reason i never get shy about that...only when it comes to talkin to people. so why dont you pick up an instrument and convey your feelingsthrough that...you will be surprised
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Hiya! I'm a little on the shy side myself! It can give people the wrong impression of you when you don't speak much. They tend to think that you're stuck up, thinking you're too good for them! But it's not that case at all is it? People who are loud don't understand or mix well with those who are quiet... Anyway I think if you just give it time you'll come out of your shell soon enough! My mother was realli quiet at school but as soon as she started work, she felt it was easier to communicate with people! I've inheritted it from her I think! So hopefully one day i can be more conifident too! You shud confront your parents about this and ask if either of them had experienced shyness? They shud be able to help you :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): i know what you mean. i am really timid too and i would rather be alone than in a group of people. but unfortunately its hard to be friends with quite people, so you need to force yourself to be more talkative. i find that as long as i keep asking questions to people or just make small talk they don't think about how painfully shy i am. i also find that to make conversation i wear something interesting, like i had a vintage necklace and it really kick started conversation!
but hey, maybe shyness is something you just naturally develop over time due to your surroundings. But don't beat yourself up about it, its really no big deal.
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