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writes:Hi,I'm 19 years old and have fallen in love with my girlfriend of a year, we've had a fantastic first 6 months but the last 6 we have seemingly ran out of steam and every part of our relationship is falling apart. We rarely have sex, and get in arguments almost on a daily basis, which puts a lot of stress on both of us, which is even worse because we work at the same job together. The real problem now is complicated. During my senior year of high school I had a crush on her younger sister, who is a year younger than me, while my girlfriend is 2 years older than me. I asked her younger sister to prom but was denied because my now girlfriend had a crush on me. Now a year later her little sister has a job at the same place we do and i'm working more and more shifts with her, and have developed a serious crush on her, we have similar interests and the issues i fight with her sister about we agree with. Now I know there is no chance of dating her now, but i just feel horrible feeling this way about her while also being in love with her older sister. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): Thats is not a problem man thats a normal man bihevior (im sry my english isnt that great) listen you fight becouse you have a crush on her sister its possible that you give too much attension to bought of them pick one that is good for you and fight for it and if its the younger sister then explain to your now girlf. thats you dont love her but her sister and that you were mistaking
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 March 2010):
 Stop looking for the greener grass within the same family..
If you and your GF isn't working out, then it isn't working out. However, to start look at the sister because it isn't working out is so wrong on so many levels.
Work on your relationship or end it..
Can you jsut imagine all the drama that will start up if you started to date the other sister? Oh boy.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 You should focus on your g/f and try to work out those 'kinks' in your relationship.
Relationship is not a bed of roses. You need to give and take and try to avoid those contentious issues. Try to find more common grounds which will bring you together.
Do not argue but to accept each others perspective.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): Im glad you say you have no chance of dating the younger sister now, by thinking like that you have steered away from a lot of trouble. So good for you! What has happened seems pretty simple from the surface of things. You relationship is going bad, and because of work you end up spending more and more time with this other cute girl. It doesn't have to be her sister, if it was just another cute girl with same interests as you, you would have been likely to get a crush on that girl as well. But because she is the sister, you must thread carefully! If the younger sister at any points senses that you have a crush on her, she will tell her older sister. As you already know, they stay loyal to each other (the younger wouldn't date you because the older liked you).
But you are in love with the older right? Then just relax knowing that. Crushes go as fast as they come. Enjoy it for the moment if you like, but dont act upon it or make the feeling grow into anything more serious. Maybe chance shifts at work, or take more time with your girlfriend to do couple-stuff so that you two can reconnect.
I must say though that after 6 months, you two should still have been going crazy about each other. I guess every couple is different, but in my opinion thats a bit early to land into routine and a "rut". After 6 months you really dont know everything about this woman, she can still surprise you. I usually think that after about a year and a half, thats when you truly get to know someone. So continue to take an interest in your girlfriend, she is by all means not old news just yet! Your relationship is still very fresh and new!
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