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I am in a cycle of disappointment. How do I get out of this cycle?

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Question - (31 January 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2009)
A male United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Hi. I have never gotten what I wanted in terms of love. I've always jumped for the stars, but landed even harder for it. I continually go for the girl who is my dream, rather than reality. I am in a cycle of disappointment. How do I get out of this cycle?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009):

there's a very simple answer to this that most people dont know. but i've been thru something similar, and i can tell you this worked for me.

Why cant you have the girl of your dreams? You know, you dont have to settle for what you call 'reality' because truth is you make your reality.

but on some level you might feel like its impossible to keep something you regard as a dream. You think, whether consciously or unconsciously, that its not real so it ends.

Do yourself a favor, because life can either be absolutely magical and incredible, or you can live in your head and keep losing the dream girl because you think everything good has to come to an end. If not, then realise that your young! But i met my man of 3 years when i was fifteen and he's the guy of my dreams. it is possible. trust me. i've experienced it first hand! Good Luck!x

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A female reader, !Candice16! United States +, writes (31 January 2009):

!Candice16! agony auntits just something we all go through. i know whats its like to want someone, try and go after them, then suddenly fall and get hurt. its something we have to push through. the girls who let you go, are the ones who never really deserved you. you must be a nice guy, so dont be upset about all of this. i understand where your coming from. its hard to want someone and not be wanted in return. theres a girl out there for you. you just have to wait. sometimes...we have to go through pain and heartbreak just to get to the one who can make everything that was so wrong, right again. dont worry about it. just wait.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (31 January 2009):

Try wearing less eyeliner?

Sorry I don't mean to tease, but it says you have an age of 13 - 15.

Seriously, I never had my first kiss till I was 14. You've hardly been left at the alter!

Give it a few years and you'll be out of that horrible teenager phase and will have all the girls you want.

Good Luck!! xx

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