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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend, John of 10 months, around 2 or so months ago. When we were together we used to hangaround as a group, with his best mate, Kyle and his friend with benefits, Jane who i became really good friends with.It took me awhile to understand that i was with John to please my family and i love him but i love him as an uncle or a brother and the feelings i had for him werent really real. About a month after we broke up i moved closer to my work, which is roughly the same sort of area as Kyle and Jane. On the day of the move everyone was there to help me move, so we decided to have drinks after wards to celebrate the move, Jane had plans with her new boyfriend and John and Kyle stayed. John and i got into a fight after he told me that he was never attracted to me and all this other stuff, he said all this stuff and still expected to get into bed together.. like hell! So he kinda left.At the end of the night there was me and Kyle, my room mate and her man and we were having a few drinks and a good time. When it came to bed time Kyle had to share my bed cause the spare beds got destroyed in the rain during the move. I never in a million years expected anything to happen, but it did, and nearly every night since for over 2 weeks. I like him HEAPS, and he likes me. But i dont know what to do, do i follow my heart and see where this goes or do i listen to my head and stop this cause it will cause alot of pain and hurt to sooo man people???? Please help!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 In a way he's right, and in a way he's very very wrong.Nobody lives in a vaccuum. While it is just you two in the relationship, you still have friends and family, and it's not like you're going to stop interacting with them. It's foolish to think that they will not have any influence on you and your relationship.That being said, you should do what you think will make you the happiest. If that means being with Kyle, then that's what you should do. Best of luck.
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reader, heartache112 +, writes (5 April 2011):
heartache112 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont feel like i am doing anything wrong, i never thought i would be so comfortable and like some one sooo much.. but i do. And i know that it wont go down well, he said that he doesnt care what they think and at the end of the day were the ones in a relationship .. not them..
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 April 2011):
Well, a relationship with you will put a huge wedge between Kyle and John. Do you think you can live with that guilt?The truth of the matter is that YOU aren't really doing anything wrong. John is your ex, and you don't really owe him anything. Still, if you're feeling something isn't right, it's usually best to trust your gut about these things.
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